Groom refuses to wear jacket or vest

posted 2 months ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn

He could wear a different color shirt? Are they wearing ties? 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

What does he want? I think a different coloured shirt is easy. A different tie. if you google boutinnere on dress shirt lots comes up about how to secure it so it shouldn’t be difficult. 

Don’t forget, its his wedding too! If he doesn’t want to wear a jacket or vest he shouldn’t have to. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Well the fact that he’s the one kissing the bride will be a dead giveaway… I don’t see why a grown man can’t choose what he wants to wear.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

 sweetamericanhoney :  even just a different tie will do. When is your wedding? Is it outside when it’s really hot? 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Give him an ivory or white tie instead.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Get him a different colored tie or a bow tie!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

Get him a different boutonniere.  

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

sweetamericanhoney :  Secure the boutonniere with a piece of fabric in the pocket. Make sure you have enough fabric so it holds it in place. Fold the fabric (you could use a hanky) tuck it deep in the pocket and secure the boutonniere to the fabric, it will hold it.

Post # 12
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Honey bee

How about a different color tie or even a thicker tie? Bowtie? Different shoes? Like a cowboy boot? 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

sweetamericanhoney :  my florist recommended against wearing bouts with no vest or jacket because it tends to look unfinished. I like the different shoes idea, but in the end, no one will wonder who the groom is, even if they do all dress the same. Mine looks like he’s wearing the exact outfit of the two brothers who were also in the ceremony. It’s still obvious 🙂

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn

sweetamericanhoney :  well, if he’s not willing to wear a vest, or jacket, or suspenders the only options would be a different colored shirt or tie to differentiate him from the groomsmen. 

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Boutonnieres look odd when they are not on a jacket. Traditionally, a boutonnière was worn pushed through the lapel buttonhole. No jacket? No buttonhole.

It sounds like he is happy dressing exactly the same as the groomsmen. Is it his desire to look different or yours?

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