Groom refuses to wear jacket or vest

posted 2 months ago in Grooms/men
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would go for a different color tie or if you don’t want to change the color then maybe a peach bowtie instead. All of your guests will know he’s the groom and so if the concern is regarding the pictures just have the photographer place him either in the center of the group or slightly in front to show off that he’s the groom when taking pics with the groomsmen. 

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020 - Clarksville, VA

Be thankful he’s not wearing a suit of armor like my fiancé wanted…

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

 the fact that everyone at your wedding will know he’s the groom should be distinction enough!

 

Post # 19
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Busy bee

Not judging, he can wear what he wants, but I’m just curious why he refuses the jacket or vest? 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I literally had no idea what Dh was wearing until I saw him on our wedding day. He didn’t get a vote on what I wore, so I didn’t get a vote on what he wore.

I think he’ll be able to pick out something on his own and be fine. It doesn’t sound like he’s all that bothered about looking different from the groomsmen.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

He’ll be the one getting married.  Is he forcing you to wear anything you don’t want to?

Post # 23
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752 posts
Busy bee

Flower crown or tiara?

Post # 24
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Helper bee

How about a striped peach tie if you don’t want to change the color?

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

my groom is wearing a jacket so I cant help with that but hes also wearing different colours to the groomsmen.

My groom is wearing blue jeans, white shirt and black jacket (all his choice) and the groomsmen are wearing black jeans, black shirt and we are thinking a gray jacket.

Post # 26
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Busy bee

kipper88 :  where on earth did OP say she is forcing her groom to wear anything?? Love how so many PPs are completely misinterpreting OP’s post. 

 

OP, if he has a desire to be different in some way, I think your only option is different color tie or shirt or do a bow tie. 

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

If he wants to look different then a different colored tie sounds like a good bet.

My husband picked one shirt and tie for everyone to wear, he liked it and didn’t want to pick something else for the sake of looking different.   We did boutonnieres though and our florist did something slightly different for him, which was nice but not something we requested. 

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper

dobby98 :  I can’t speak for other posters, but to ME, saying he “refuses” comes off like that’s what she wants, but he is disobeying. And further when SHE says “I want him to look different”. That’s all pretty clear messages that sound like she’s picking out his clothing and he doesnt seem to have much choice. A child refuses to put on their dress shoes for church. A grown man chooses to wear sneakers instead of dress shoes. There’s a difference. 

If HE wants to look different, I think it’s a different story. But none of OPs posts talk about his feelings or what he wants. 

Post # 29
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Busy bee

jellybellynelly :  I see your point but it seems like a lot of assumptions. Skipping anything traditional comes across as a refusal in general. I refused to wear red on my wedding day (traditional in my culture) and I would tell people that but I never meant refusal in terms of defying a particular person, just a societal/cultural norm. No one forced me to wear red, it was more of an off the bat “I refuse to wear red and I’m stating this now cause I know that will be the common assumption”.

I also don’t think the bride requesting him to be slightly different to where he stands out is the end of the world if they find an idea they both like. I read the post as him being content without changing anything but also open to other ideas besides suit, jacket and suspenders. That may not be the case, but harping on the OP for being a crappy person and forcing her SO to do something as horrendous considering alternate options is just dumb until she clarifies.

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