(Closed) Groom refusing to pick best man or groomsman.

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

He doesn’t have to have any groomsmen if he doesn’t want to! It’s perfectly fine for her to have BMs and him to not have anyone. 🙂

Post # 4
3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I thought you meant your bf.. and then i realised you were talking about your Best friend! so many acronynms these days! you need a witness so basically anyone can go up and sign.

Post # 5
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

Yeah there is no need for him to have someone up there with him if he doesn’t want to.  And there will be plenty of witnesses in the church whether they are standing up or not.  In MA the only witness you need is your officiant!  If he needs someone to sign as a witness just have one of his parents do it.

Post # 6
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

LOL! Sorry, ok I shouldn’t laugh but my Fiance is the king of procrastination when it comes to this. He only FINALLY asked his guys to ‘be in the wedding’ (yes, that’s exactly what he asked – if they would ‘be in the wedding’) about 2 months ago and our wedding is in September. I asked my girls last summer. Nice. Perhaps he’s still getting used to things and will ask in his own time – if not, he doesn’t have to have to have a Bridesmaid or Best Man or Groomsmen. Any friend, a parent, etc could be a witness!


Post # 7
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

If your best friend was getting married in July I would think maybe you’re my best friend.

My Fiance has asked his three friends to be in the wedding, and has one in mind to be the best man, however thus far he has failed to actually ask anybody.  He’s kind of of the mind that he shouldn’t have to choose, but it’s going to be fairly obvious when one person has to make a speech and sign our marriage certificate…

Post # 8
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Haha My Fiance don’t want any either,  he want just me and him, but that’s not going to happen. I have my sister for a BM and I have older son’s that will be his Groomsmen….so he don’t have a choice in the matter, but  don’t worry he do not need a Groomsmen it will be just fine. 

Post # 9
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Bella Luna: we’re also getting married in Sept and my Fiance STILL hasn’t picked his groomsmen! Talk about procrastination, lol.

And I agree with the other posters. No need for him to have a best man or any groomsmen if he doesn’t want to.

Post # 10
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Guys are just so different… esp if they don’t have a lot of close friends.  I asked my bridesmaids no more than a couple days after getting engaged.  my fiance waited to ask his best man for… i dont even know how long, but it was months and months later.  I was beginning to think he would never ask, but then just out of nowhere he asked.  tell your friend to be patient.  if her fiance wants a best man he’ll get around to asking eventually.

Post # 11
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s okay if he doesn’t have anyone there.  The Maid/Matron of Honor should probably hold both rings for the ceremony then.  Not all states require there to be witnesses.  If they do, they should ask a family member (a parent maybe).

Post # 12
962 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

is it possible he’s still mulling it over?? 

we’ve been engaged since january 3rd, i picked my BMs within the week (no brainer, my sisters) but he has yet to ask anyone.  he knows who he wants to ask, but just hasnt done it yet!  we have a wedsite and our invites go in the mail in 3 weeks…  i’ve pretty much told him that if he is going to ask anyone, he needs to soon… as i want a wedding party page on the wedsite!  if he chooses not to have anyone… well, thats his choice.

Post # 14
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@ Hilsy85, I am in the same boat. We are getting married in September and he still hasn’t asked all of his groomsmen. I have been asking him to for months, constantly reminding him and he says he knows, he will, etc. What is the problem? Sheesh. Good luck!

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