(Closed) Groom Responsibilities?

posted 13 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

Buy him this book:  The Knot Guide for the Groom.

My husband enjoyed it; it’s lighthearted, but full of good info.  In fact, I borrowed it a couple times to figure some general wedding planning stuff out (like what order people stand in for the processional/ceremony). (It’s also good b/c there’s a section on what he should tell his groomsmen to do.)

But I think you’ve got the basics covered on the list. Good job!

Post # 5
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

sounds like you have most of it…the music was something my Fiance wanted to have his hands in, so he’s kinda taken that on. And that’s something you guys could do longdistance/email style 🙂

Good luck!

Post # 6
267 posts
Helper bee

Make sure he IS able to just notarize the license and send it to you. In California both parties need to show up in person, together, to get a license.

If you two are planning anything other than the "rock n’ sway" for your first dance, maybe get a little practice in. If you have a poofy dress, see if you can at least wear something similarly poofy (like your crinoline) when you practice, for both your sakes.


Post # 8
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Some things you need him to do might not need to be done during the week that he visits you, like selecting music for example.  Also make sure you two both set some time up to write the ceremony and wedding day timeline.  Maybe write his own vows if you’re doing that?  Those are things he could do long distance though.  If you’re doing engagement photos, you’ll want to be sure to schedule that during his visit; ditto for any vendors he wants to check out.  You might want to hit up some stores you’re registered at and pick out items together too.

Things I want my fiance to do himself: order the favours (we’re buying them from one of his contacts, so it makes sense for him to do it), pick a DJ, plan/book the honeymoon, book the limo.

Things I want him to help me with: design save-the-dates and invitations, create the guest list, take dance lessons, create a gift registry, decide on the catering menu, and a bunch of last minute things like getting the marriage license, the seating plan etc.

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