Groom seeing dress before wedding…did it spoil his reaction on the day?

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

My Fiance wont even look at my phone anymore, lest he see a picture. I had no idea he was going to be this sappy about things. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee

Can’t take back the past…

Just dont show him anything else like hair styles, makeup, accessories etc.

His reaction will not be ruined, on the day he will feel totally different when he sees you in it and you will also look different as all the pieces come together.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

We’re eloping over here – so we went dress shopping a couple months ago. I found the dress that I adore, however I am going back in January to deposit it and make it official. I won’t be taking him along for this one, namely because I’ll be trying on extra things, like jewellery, the head piece and the stole/capelet thing.

His reaction was pretty sweet – we were both quite jovial and elated. However, he’ll now be kept in suspence for the rest of the wait! I don’t think it will make much of a difference, Bee. His emotions will be heightened come the Big Day anyway <3 Stress less!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

I’m not married but I had 2 of my friends who brought their Fiance to select the dresses. According to the guys, it didn’t take away anything and it still felt special cos you’re not dolled up when you try it on, but during your wedding, you are… Totally different feeling.

So don’t worry about it ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

My Darling Husband saw a picture of my dress on my phone.  I don’t think it ruined anything for him because I wasn’t all made up.  I asked him the next day if he remembered anything about my dress and he said that he only remembered that it was white.  It actually wasn’t white (it was blush).

Yeah, you’ll be fine.  He won’t remember a thing.  To most guys all wedding gowns look the same.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

My Darling Husband wanted to go dress shopping with me.  Going together was so much fun, and it made the process so relaxed for me.  We had an amazing time at our wedding, and I don’t think any moments were ruined or less special because of him having seen me in the dress previously.  

Because your Fiance didn’t make it known that he wanted your dress to be a surprise, I imagine it isn’t that big of a deal to him?  Otherwise wouldn’t he have said he couldn’t join you in dress shopping? 

I hope everything works out and that you both find the day to be very special ๐Ÿ™‚ I am sure your dress will look different in the venue lighting versus the store lighing.  That combined with your makeup, etc., you will look different if than when you had shopped, if that is your goal ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Neither of us actually wanted to keep all that stuff a surprise, so we didn’t! I’m pretty sure my dad went wedding dress shopping with my mom too, so for us it’s good luck, haha.

We still got a beautiful photo of him watching me walk down the aisle. I never expected a big emotional reaction from just my appearance, but he really busted up during the ceremony, it was perfect โค๏ธ

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I can’t imagine it will ruin anything on the big day. Honestly, I assume your Fiance has seen you in enough outfits to be able to envision you in a wedding dress. Most wedding dresses look pretty similar. The moving thing will be seeing you on the wedding day as his bride, not being terribly surprised by seeing you in an unseen dress. 

My Fiance has seen my dress too. He even specifically wanted to go dress shopping with me. In the end I gave in, because I’d rather have his opinion on which dress to choose than anyone else’s – he’s the one I’m trying to impress after all. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee

My daughter showed her Fiance a photo of her in her gown, on her cell phone.

He still cried when he saw her, during their 1st look. He cried when he saw her walking down the aisle. He cried after the ceremony and kept repeating “it was so perfect.”

Nothing was “spoiled.”

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

My Darling Husband went shopping with me and helped me pick out my dress. He was the only person who I took shopping with me and he helped me choose. He also helped me try it on a couple of times. He helped zip it up (we live together). He was there when I tried it with my shoes and when I tried on my hairpiece. 

We dressed in the same B&B room. He again helped me zip up the dress and I helped him with his tux. I love my memories of that day. It certainly didn’t take anything away from our special day. It is actually hard for me to imagine picking out a dress without his input. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

fwiw i brought my husband to help me pick a dress.

the emotion you’re hoping for when he sees you isn’t really about your dress. its about the fact that you guys are getting married that day. you have nothing to worry about. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

He was with me in every dress appointment lol, still teared up when see me walking down the aisle, and I don’t think it’s because of the dress ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

If he didn’t want to see you in the dress he could have said it before going to the shop. Also some peopple are not emotional or good at showing it. The dress might not be the factor and his feelings are different on the day. Also there is the possibility that it won’t make him emotional and just beecause it’s not the type of person he is. So you haven’t ruined anything, but also don’t put too much pressure on his reaction.

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