(Closed) Groom seeing the dress before the Wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
10285 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

People claim it’s “bad luck” but I don’t believe in that garbage. I showed Darling Husband pictures of my IN my dress and look at us, still married and happy as ever! Actually, I wanted him to go shopping with me since I value his opinion more than anyone elses but he couldn’t physically bring himself to step foot into a bridal salon. Can’t say I blame the guy. 

Post # 4
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have shown my Fiance a pic of the dress (but not me in it) because this was my 2nd wedding dress I was buying because of dress regret and the opinion about the dress that mattered most to me was his and my mothers (Oh yeah and mine!). He said he could care less about the dress looked because I would look beautiful in anything I put on (awe). Our venue has a 4 hr time limit for the wedding and reception so because of that time crunch we would have liked to take pics together before the wedding. Unfortunately our southern families are VERY superstitious. They dont even want us together the night before the wedding (but I can be in bed with him any other night before the wedding, seriously??). I’m just letting it go and allowing them to have these superstitions honored because this will be the first wedding on my mother’s side and I’m just allowing them to have their moments too. Honestly, I don’t think it would hurt anything to obey or disobey them. I don’t believe in superstitions (I open the umbrella in the house all the time, lol!).

Post # 5
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I don’t believe that the sky will fall if he sees me in my dress before the wedding, or if we are to see each other the night before… but…

If he sees, touches, handles or has anything to do with that dress… I am buying a new dress! That dress is top secret class A information. And there is no way he is seeing me the day before the wedding either.

What can I say… old superstitions die hard…


PS You should add a poll…

Post # 6
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

He wanted to wear a suit, but I wasn’t sure if that would work with my dress, so we actually tried them on together.  And I think once we may have practiced our waltz in our wedding clothes to make sure it would still “work” with stiffer outfits.

So far, we are quite happily married 😉

Post # 7
3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would have gladly shown my husband the dress before the wedding, but he was very firmly against seeing it before hand!  🙂


Post # 8
583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

it’s not that i think its bad luck. i just want him to see me in the dress for the first time when i walk down the aisle and i just want him to be like wow. ya know? just saying. im the worst person to keep secrets but iv easily kept him away from seeing my dress it’s the biggest no no! 

Post # 9
1024 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I might show him mine because it will probably be very untraditional and I dont want him to hate it on the day.

Post # 10
550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

He has seen a picture and seen me in it, we are doing pre-ceremony pictures too. I don’t feel that our day will be any less special since he has already seen me.

Post # 11
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Fiance has been given his orders by everyone that he is not to see the dress, he does not know the name, style or any detail about it. It is hard because usually i rely on him to tell me if i look nice in something, but our families are pretty traditional about the whole thing. did feel sorry for him when i handed him the bill for something he has never seen. 

Post # 12
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Mine has seen me in my dress. I had bought a dress originally with my family and was keeping it out of sight, but then I had major, major dress regret after the first fitting. I ended up showing that dress to him — he thought it was fine, but I was still really regretting it. He was so dismayed at how upset I was over it all that he hopped online and started looking for replacement dresses himself! And he came with me to the appointment for a new dress, since I don’t have any family or bridesmaids where we live, so he’s seen that one, too. I’m SO much happier with my second dress, though — for me it was awfully good luck to show him ahead of time!

Post # 13
18 posts

I’ve not shown mine to him, and if he sees it, I’m with Rachel631, I’m buying a new dress! It’s not about superstition to me, it’s about that I want that moment when I walk down the aisle to him to be special in every way that it can be. All he knows is that it’s lace. I actually asked him if he wanted to do first look pictures and he was adamant that we not see each other before the wedding. It’s just a sentimental thing for mus.

Post # 15
1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Nope hes not seeing the dress before the wedding. He basicly knows what colors, ivory and champange it it. And it it has straps or not. We are moveing in together next month and the dress will live at my parents house with no chance of him seeing it before the wedding. 

Post # 16
5 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wouldn’t say it’s bad luck, I guess it all boils down to your value of traditions. In an age when old traditions are being ignored more and more, your decision can be made with less scrutiny than before. I personally wanted my FH to see my dress as well since I wanted it to be what he liked since it’s for him anyways. Unfortunatly, my parents had a cow when I mentioned it so I opted for family peace and kept it a secret. If you’re confident with your choice, than keep it a surprise!

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