(Closed) Groom using wheelchair

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think it is a good idea to leave out space at each table, and make sure there is lots of space between the tables so he can move around easily

ETA: In your situation, it is definitely NOT rude to ask your guests to come up to you. Maybe have a sign saying “feel free to come up to the bride and groom throughout the night, we would love to visit with you!”

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@Carolsays:  I think people will figure out that he is sitting for a reason and that reason is not rudeness. That is, unless you are having hundreds of people and they don’t know you two or his situation. They should stop by to greatt you.

But that siad, leaving space at each table is a good idea, planning ahead!

 

Post # 6
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1608 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think either option is good and hopefully people at your wedding will take the hint! I also absolutely think he should use his chair if it’ll make him more comfortable- this day is about you guys celebrating starting your lives together, not about posturing to make others feel less uncomfortable.

Depending on the size of the venue, I imagine itmight be hard to get around if it’s crowded- I’ve been to weddings where the bride and groom barely leave the head table aside from late in the evening to dance. I don’t think it would be inappropriate to have a similar style to your reception.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

If I attended your wedding, I would WANT to do whatever is most convenient for you and the groom….whether that is having space at our table and having you guys come to us, or going up to you at your table.  I imagine many people attending your wedding know that he has trouble walking (?) so I”m sure they’ll want to accommodate what works best for you.  But, just make sure there’s plenty of space between tables so it’s easier for groom to get through, our tables were jam packed in, so I know that can happen sometimes depending on the guest list number.

Post # 8
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1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

I too think it would be nice to just make sure the is enough space to move around. I wouldt make space at the tables except for where hes sitting.

 

I dont know what your groom is like but my FI friends hate it when, what they call unnecessary help is given to them. They like to try and be as active as possible and negotiate things themselves, or they feel like they being treated like babies not grown men. So I always go by the rule – if they dont ask dont help. From your first para it sounds like the groom may be the same way if your having to persuade him to bring his own chair. 

 

I would suggest these things to him when your planning and let him make the decision 

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Talk to the venue and make sure there is ample space to move around

 Think the idea of leaving a space at each table is best, then he can control who he talks to and he doesnt get trapped for an hour with boring uncle fred or drunk aunt martha

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Carolsays:  I think it would be foolish not to have the wheelchair at the reception, and then he can use it when he wants/needs to.  

If this would help him to walk more comfortably, as a wedding gift, buy him an elegant cane.  What is he wearing?  What does the wheel chair look like?

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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