(Closed) Groom Views

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

To be honest, I think most vendors are just used to the bride /mother of the bride making all of the decisions.  While my Fiance is very excited about getting married, he couldn’t care less about the details of the wedding part, which seems fairly typical to me.  I think it’s great that your fiance is so involved, but I think it just might not be what most vendors are used to.

Post # 5
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200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Cariad:  I noticed that too!  A lot of vendors, particulary female ones, can be a little dismissive of the groom.  My groom has been doing a LOT of work on this, and we look for each others’ opinions on everything.  We want the personalized details of the ceremony to reflect US – not me.  That’s actually part of why I was annoyed at having a bridal shower (I really didn’t want one!).  The TWO of us are getting married and the two of us are doing more planning than anyone else for this.  Why are they throwing me a get-ready-to-get-married party?  Why not a Jack and Jill for the both of us?  Most of the gifts were money, but I got a few kitchen items.  I thought it was kinda funny – while we both cook, he does the majority of it and most of the fancier stuff.  

Post # 6
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5428 posts
Bee Keeper

Yes, the groom gets “dismissed” most of the time with vendors etc.. because there is a generalization that the groom doesn’t care about planning, or will screw things up.

One thing with vendors… if you both go, if the vendor tends to talk with only you, you may ask the vendor to speak to both of you as a couple… or if the vendor calls and talks with you, you may say, I’ll discuss it with my fiance and we will call you back.

 

Post # 7
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200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Our photographer called last week and wanted to talk about package details and pricing, because we were thinking about upgrading our package.  Although we both deal with those things, photography details are something that he is more concerned with and had very specific questions about.  I asked her to call him… there’s no way I’d be able to find out everything he wanted to know by myself on the phone, even with a list.  She sounded a little surprised, but gave him a call at work.  Fiance and I discussed options when he got home from work and he called back the next day to upgrade. 

 

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