Post # 1
Today my Mother in law…. To be sent my fiancé a photo of me in my dress!!!
It was from the waist up but still! We are getting married in two weeks,
Should I confront her? What do I do? Was she completely out of line??
Post # 3
Theres really no point, he seen it and it cant be taken back. Save yourself the drama and move on.
He didnt see the whole dress, or you in it in person, all done up, coming down the aisle. That is what will wow him.
my Fiance has seen me in my dress numerous times! Hes still going to be wow’d when I am all done up 🙂
Post # 4
She was a little out of line, but I wouldn’t be too harsh on her, I doubt she was doing it with any mean thouhgts. Just casually let her know that you’d rather your Fiance saw no pictures of you in the dress. Make sure she knows you’re not angry, if you seem angry about this it will reflect badly on you. There’s a good chance she didn’t even think about it.
ETA: The only reason I suggest mentioning it is because you clearly dont want your Fiance to see the dress and it’s safer to say something so she doesn’t send another picture of the full dress.
Post # 5
Please don’t rock that boat with only 2 weeks before the wedding even though she was wrong.
Post # 6
@Honeyblood: Thanks girls, I’m sure she didn’t mean it nastily, but I don’t understand why she would do it in the first place!!
Post # 7
@Thefairytale: I would not say anything. Not that I am saying that it wasn’t out of line or anything. But, I would avoid the drama, and try to ignore what she done.
I have actually given some consideration on taking my fiance’ dress shopping with me. He is just really good at lifting my spirits when I start getting annoyed and frustrated, when things don’t go the way I want them too. That, and I value his input.
Your fiance’ is still going to be stunned when you are walking down the aisle to him. Don’t allow what she doen to steal your thunder!!
Post # 8
I think that’s what I thought that the elimant of surprise was gone and she had gotten control again…..
Post # 9
not a big deal dont stress. I showed my fiance tons of pics of me in mine and 2 days later he couldnt tell me anything about it except “uhh its white and strapless” lol. Plus it will be SOOOOO different in person when you’re all done up!
Post # 10
Are you upset about it and did you want to keep it a surprise? It’s all well and good for us to say it doesn’t matter because we showed people our dress, etc. but if this was something you cared about, you should say something.
I don’t think that you need to go into the conversation with guns blazing, but you could say that you’d rather no one showed your Fiance or anyone else pictures of you in your dress. Just say you’d really like it to be a surprise.
I would say something and then let it go. IF she starts showing it again after you asked her not too, then you have something to get upset about.
Post # 11
@ArwenBride: +1. exactly what I was trying to say, sadly my dyslexia makes me sound like a moron.
Post # 12
She probably did it to tease him (without thinking about it) but don’t worry men are pretty dense at times when it comes to dresses. I’m sure my fiance has a very darn good idea of what dress I’m wearing and he only sees a white dress LoL. Keep in mind he didn’t see you with all the other pieces put together: your hair, make up, jewellry, veil… etc. When all gets put together he will think you are wearing a totally different dress! So relax and have fun =)
Post # 13
I’d give her one hell of a piece of my mind!
Post # 14
I’d let your Fiance handle this one – nothing big and confrontaitonal, but I’d want him to at least shoot a text back like, “Mom, why would you send me that?! You know the groom isn’t supposed to see the bride in her dress until she’s walking down the aisle, it’s a surprise!”
Post # 15
What good would come from you confronting her about this now? He’s still going to be surprised when he see’s you all done up. And it’s not like this is something that you need to tell her about so it doesn’t happen again, as ou should only be geting married once. So I can understand why you’re upset, but I don’t think a confrontation gets you anywhere useful and it might cause a rift right before the wedding.
Post # 16
@Thefairytale: I would be pretty pissed. My Future Mother-In-Law is pretty clueless however when it comes to weddings though and so it could be she just didn’t realize it was a big deal to you. I would have Fiance or yourself just say to her, it’s supposed to be a surprise and please don’t send more pictures. Plus like the other posters said, he probably has not recollection of any details of the dress and will be in awe seeing you coming down the aisle.