(Closed) Groom won’t decide groomsmen

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

This sounds like a symptom of a bigger problem. Why is he fighting you when this should be something you BOTH are looking forward to? You need to have a heart to heart.

Post # 4
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I am having the same problem with my Fiance. He won’t chose anyone! 🙁 He has about 10 to chose from but my Fiance is the guy that doesn’t like to hang out with friends. He likes being at home… He said because he is not really that close to anyone in particular and he wants to take his time choosing. Our wedding is less than 6 months away and he still can’t decide.

I told him yesterday that he needs to let me know because if he chooses more than 2 groomsmen, I need to chose more bridesmaids which wouldn’t be too much of a problem. The problem is, is getting their dresses in because it takes about 2 – 3 months to order.

He agreed and saw my point but he is still not choosing! GRR

Post # 5
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Are we the same people!?!

This is my exact problem.  Fiance & I have planned pretty much the whole wedding (venue, colors, caterer, DJ etc etc.) BUT he has not picked his Groomsmen yet!!  I am also having 3 & he told me he is having a hard time picking only 3.  So I told him if he wanted more that was fine – I am ok with a lopsided wedding party.  Well he still hasn’t picked anyone (except his best man he already knows & hasn’t asked yet)

SOOO FRUSTRATING!  People laugh at me so much when they ask who is in my wedding party & I can only tell them the names of the 3 people on my side!

Post # 7
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Similar problem for me too – but not quite as frustrating.  FI has chosen his groomsmen…but he has not asked any of them!  I remind him and he says he should get on that, but nothing so far!  I want to update our website with the bridal party before our Save-The-Date Cards go out with our wedding date on it, so we’ll see.   Guess I just have to keep reminding him!

Post # 8
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Gosh! That must be stressful! I’m sure that’s it! He has a lot on his plate, but that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t pick his guys soon! Good luck!

Post # 9
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

lol I think this problem is SO common. I’ve been engaged for over 10 months and my Fiance hasn’t picked groomsman! When we were first engaged and talked about it he was like oh I’m picking x,y,z (college buddies) and he said he was SURE about that but he just wanted to wait until closer to ask them (16 month engagement). I checked with him again before asking my three girls and he said yes he was sure. So I ask my girls (like um… FOREVER ago). And he still hasn’t asked anyone! He kind of lost touch with those guys after we moved in together in January (like hasn’t seem them since)… so now he doesn’t want to ask them. But he doesn’t know who he does want to ask. I told him he was stressing me out and he told me to give him a deadline so I said okay… one month from today. He said okay. Deadline is Monday– Aug 9. He still hasn’t asked anyone!!! We’ll see on Monday what happens…

Post # 11
5147 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We don’t have a full party of official groomsmen yet either. We have one “yes”, one guy that is horrible at making any type of committment  (you can ask him on Friday if he’s coming over Saturday and he’ll say he doesn’t know yet!), and another that may be having a baby around that time and if he is he won’t be a groomsman (we’re having a destination wedding, so I don’t expect him to leave his wife at home 9 months pregnant, that would be horrible if he wasn’t there for the baby being born).

We’re fine with 1, 2, or 3 groomsmen. I’m having 2 bridesmaids, so it really doesn’t matter if we’re one over or under for the groomsmen.

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