(Closed) Groom wont shut up about money

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Would it be better to wait until you both have jobs or in a more financially secure place to have a wedding?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would turn the planning over to him, then. If he wants to get married this year instead of waiting until you have more saved up, and he wants a garden wedding, then HE can plan. That might change his tune.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Krises:I agree.

If he has enough of an opinion to scrap your ideas and efforts, then he should have enough of an opinion to do all of the planning himself!! Lol. Seriously though, he can’t just say no to everything without coming up with something himself. Also, he needs to meet your halfway with whatever he wants too!! It’s not just his wedding day!! Good luck!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think we have the same guy!!

Originally was a cruise wedding in Hawaii, then it was too expansive, I switched to Key West a year later, hes worried that his uncle can’t make the plane ride and his cousin won’t be able to afford it.  

Men…pfft!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That would frustrate the hell out of me.  The wedding should be about what the 2 of you want and meet somwhere in the middle. It just seems like what he says goes and you go along with it-your feelings/views should also be taken into consideration.. I think you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with your future hubby.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m paying for everything, except the honeymoon. And he won’t stop nagging at me! “I only make so much and can’t afford to do much else.” Yeah, well I didn’t ask for your money. I had a traditional wedding planned, he thought everything was too much. I offered to shrink the ceremony to practically eloping and a reception dinner at our fave restaurant and he is afraid it’s still too much. Plus, he might have to have surgery… and we’ve been engaged for 4 damn years. GRR!!!

Oh, and he won’t help plan either. “Doesn’t know how to do that sort of thing.”

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t think your guy is treating you fairly at all.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

that would make me sooo stresses out!! ahhhhh!! my fiance and i sat down after we were engaged talked about what we envisioned, what we would be able to come up with in 16 months. we are also in college and are paying for our wedding ourselves and REFUSE to go into any debt for our wedding. we have our budget set at  5000 for 150 guests at the historical plaza hotel in las vegas NM. we are having a seated dinner, a 4 tier cake the works!!! and ive been able to win my engagment and wedding photgraphy yay!!! so we are under budget by 1000 so far!!! i show everything to my fiance so he understands the costs of the wedding!!! and he has been very helpful in the planning process!!!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@MadameLady: My Fiance and I CAN afford something nice…well in my view…5k or below because i want an Awesome honeymoon somewhere. HE won’t shut up about it either. His budget is 1000K and he feels it should be “thrown” like a surprise party and that it should happen to “us”. So I did that…I handed him plannning books and gave him a book i got at barns & noble called the grooms handbook. NOW it’s his turn, i told him have fun….finding things cheaper lol

 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

its a man thing… When we started I had our dream wedding, my parents idea of our dream wedding and a realisitic wedding.  THANK GOD we finally settled on a venue cuz I could not take trying to plan 3 different weddings to appease everyone.  And everyone did the same thing to me your FH is doing to you! Finally I just said you are not allowed to shoot down my ideas unless you are bringing a new one to the table. 

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