Post # 1
FI wants to wear navy blue. Cool, that works with our color scheme!
At first he was thinking about tux like suits (this one specifically) and I was very excited. Very 007:
But now he wants to do 3-piece suits instead with regular ties. Whomp whomp…
I really fell for the look of bow ties & studded shirts but FI thinks it looks stupid with a vest. Personally I think this gentleman looks quite dapper:
So does JT in his three piecer…
And this runway model (although I hate the double breasted vest)
And I think this looks great too, even without the studded shirt
Obviously he’s a grown man and I don’t want to be the Bridezilla who insists on dressing the groomsmen up like they’re Ken dolls but… how did you gently and successfully convince your FI to go along with a certain/preferred look?
Post # 3
@k8: I know how you feel, but let him have what he wants. They get to make so few decisions for themselves about the wedding.
Post # 4
@k8: I think the best thing is to get them into a store so they can try on the various looks that are being considered and see them on themselves for real. Having said that unless my FI was wanting to wear something totally out there I’m happy to let him have his preferred choice. That seems only fair as I got to choose my outfit 🙂
Post # 5
I like the long tie & vest look
Post # 6
@k8: I think the bow tie looks very nice too. If you cant persuade him gently, dont bother pushing hard. He should feel comfortable in what he wears.
Post # 7
@lcutter711: actually FI has been really helpful in the wedding planning process!
@Lollybags: I totally agree – I picked my dress, he gets to pick his look too. I’m just worried 3-piece suits with a regular tie are not special enough because he dresses that way in life.
One of his concerns is that he wants the groomsmen to have something that they’ll wear again (we’re buying their suits, we have an awesome local tailor) which I can appreciate bc I picked infinity dresses for the bridesmaids with that in mind as well.
@SparkleBee11: I won’t push hard. I just want to subtly Jedi Mind Trick him into a look more like what he originally suggested because I like it so much! 😉
Post # 8
@lcutter711: This. Let him look how he wants on his big day!
Post # 9
Take him out shopping, then convince him to try both on, then convince the sales person to support your choice while he’s in the changing room 🙂 Can you tell I do this all the time? lol
But in the end, let him wear what he wants. It’s his wedding too, you know? 🙂
Oh, and make sure he tries on the bow tie first, some guys just can’t pull them off. Mr. Meow, for example, has a round face and bow ties are not his friends! He hates them with a passion 🙂
Post # 11
@MsMeow: gah. I hadn’t considered that! Maybe that’s why I’ve never seen FI in a bow tie… I wouldn’t consider him to have a round face but he doesn’t have a square jaw either
Post # 12
@k8: Maybe! They’re not for everyone. There’s a funny story being told in my family about how my Dad once put on a bow tie when I was about 3 years old. I came up to him and said “waiter, one pizza please”. My Dad burst out laughing and changed into a regular tie 🙂
So yes, definitely do a “maitre d’hotel” check first! 😀
Post # 13
I let DH have free reign on the suits. He was SO excited about choosing them, that I couldn’t tell him no!
Post # 14
@k8: Does he get a say in what you wear? If not then pay him the same respect.
Post # 15
@k8: Navy suits are an awesome look. They’re better than navy Tuxedos, (which aren’t dark enough for those of us classically minded on Black Tie) and every man should have at least once navy suit. I’m sure he’ll be happy to oblige with a single breasted best.
Post # 16
I think it all comes down to the “formality” of the occasion.
Women tend to choose the event & setting … and Men tend to set the “tone” (dress code)
Altho when it comes to a Wedding, Brides choose their attire first, and then Men have to ante up
So the difference between being in a Tux and a Suit can be substantial IMO…
What is the setting of your Wedding… is it more formal than casual ?
If you have your dress, what is the “tone” that it conveys etc.