(Closed) Groom's Cake?-What is the purpose and are you doing one for your FI?

posted 8 years ago in Food
  • poll: Did you or are you doing a groom's cake?

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    Maybe

  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    I don’t think they are pointless… They’re one of the few ways the groom gets to be involved in wedding planning, if you think about it. The bride chooses pretty much everything that has a possibility of being “pretty,” which the main wedding cake almost always is. The grooms cake is his way to get involved and have something geeky or manly in the wedding. Mine wanted an Assassin’s Creed cake, soooo that’s happening. Haha.

    Post # 18
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    So far the only wedding detail (besides picking the reception venue) Fiance has involved himself in is the cake! LOL!! We decided to do two 3 tiered cakes, both of equal size, one for him and one for me.

     

    His will resemble Birchwood with leaves, some camo and a deer cake topper! LOL!

    Mine will be super feminine and will have candy pearls and be lacy with flowers that match my boquet and center peices. My baker will be working with my florist and I will also be giving her a sample of my dress fabric from the reminents after alterations.

     

    Even though his is going to be a little more rustic it will still be very artistic and elegant. It was so fun to see him get so involved and excited over it, LOL!

    Post # 19
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @lovelylight99:  The original purpose of a groom’s cake wasn’t for eating (it was traditionally a fruit cake in England), but for distributing amongst the guests to take home and sleep on so that the single women could dream about their future husbands.  It has since been adopted by the southern US and is often thought of as a southern tradition.  Now couples use it as a way of having another type of dessert (sometimes cheesecake, pie, tiramisu, etc) or another flavor of cake. 

    I plan on doing a red velvet cake (I’m baking it) for the night before.  I don’t really see the purpose of having two cakes for the same night, but if you have the money for it and you want it, go for it.  I’m too broke to afford two cakes lol.

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

     

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    @aggie2010:  +1

    I feel it is sooo important to include both of or personalities and style into our wedding and using the cakes is an amazing opportunity to do that.

    I certainly don’t view this as  “My Wedding” its  “Our Wedding” and I the only details I am concerned about are the one’s that include both of our style Wink

    Post # 21
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We had a grooms cake.  In our area it’s pretty standard to have two cakes– I don’t think I’ve been to a wedding where there wasn’t, but again, that’s typical of our area.

    Post # 22
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

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    @aggie2010:  I think this is dependent on the couple. My Fiance has helped me with every decision- he’s a designer so I trust his eye on things. He’s also designed the STD’s, invites, rehearsal invites, guest book, menus, and all other paper. I do think he’s done more than the average groom, but not all guys are uninvolved with the planning process.

    Post # 23
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    At first we weren’t going to do two cakes, but I have decided to surprise my groom with a Batman-themed cake. We know we will be too busy on the actual day to really sit down and enjoy our cake and we don’t want to save the top tier for our 1 year anniversary. So I’m ordering a little 8″ cake that we WON’T cut into that night but we’ll save it to eat at our 1 week anniversary when we get back from our mini-moon. I’m really excited to see his face when he realizes he has a whole Batman cake just for him with his favorite flavor!

    Post # 24
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    My fiance mentioned that we should gulp….ahhh….”have a cookie cake” for our wedding cake with the words “Happy Wedding” on the cake.  I’m not sure if he was serious or not..so suffice to say, his groom cake will be a giant cookie cake with a golf ball on it.  lol

    Post # 25
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @housebee:  lol red velvet? In the shape of an armadillo?!?

    (Please say yes!!! lol)

    Post # 26
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

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    @suburbian:  haha, I wish I was that talented. 

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

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    @housebee:  Well that would definitely make sense since the Southern US idolized British culture during the pre-Civil War era.  The traditional Southern accent (think Gone with the Wind) is a bastardized British accent.  Silly right?

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    we just did a simple cheap grooms cake from Publix!

    Post # 30
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    We did a groom’s cake, mainly because it was expected that would be a chocolate and a white cake. DH doesn’t eat cake, so I wanted it to be something he loved anyway, and something people talked about. SO I surprised him with this:

    He LOVED IT and it was one of the things our guests raved about the entire time. He’s an avid griller, everyone knows it, and we’re huge A&M fans. It was perfect, and all gone at the end of the night.

    Post # 31
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Oh and DH didn’t know a thing about it until we showed up at the reception! It was great!

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