(Closed) Groom's Cake?-What is the purpose and are you doing one for your FI?

posted 7 years ago in Food
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  • Post # 47
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    It’s a nice Southern tradition; the groom’s cake is typically chocolate or some other “heavy” flavor.

    My native Texan Fiance did not want a groom’s cake; one layer of our three layer cake will be carrot cake (his favorite), with a pineapple filling.  On our second date we had an amazing carrot cake for dessert that was topped by a delicious pineapple sauce.  The other two layers are almond with raspberry filling.

    Post # 48
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We’re doing a groom’s cake, but only because both cakes are part of our wedding package.  The groom’s cake is probably my favorite flavor of the ones we chose.  It’s double chocolate with Bavarian cream filling. 🙂

    Post # 49
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We aren’t having a grooms cake since Fiance isn’t a huge fan of cake in general.  He loves ice cream though, so we are having an ice cream sundae bar instead.  He’s super excited about it, and it was a great way to include what he likes for dessert into the wedding.

    Post # 50
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @suburbian:  lol Steel Magnolias 🙂

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    @lovelylight99:

    part of our theme was a construction theme (DH’s family business, and our business is heavy equipment) so I had our baker make him a crane cake, it came out AWESOME!  The boom of the crane actually had a PVC pipe inside it.  they even put chocolate powdered crunchies all on the base to look like dirt.

    It’s now in our freezer.

    here are a few pics (Kustom was his family’s crane business, the other side of the boom had our business name, Easle):

     

     

    The last pic is our silly best man at our house at brunch the next day, but it’s a good closeup.

     

    the big crane holding the crane cake–DH made that specifically for our wedding…it now resides in our yard.  It had our Just Married sign for months, then Santa’s sleigh, and I’m going to turn it into a flower basket holder next.

    Post # 51
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    It’s the done thing around here, so it never really occurred to me not to have one. We both also LOVE cake.

    I haven’t decided what to do, though. But I am pretty bad at keeping surprises secret so I will probably just make him decide what he wants on his own.

    Post # 52
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We’re (I’m) doing the groom’s cake at the rehersal dinner. It’ll be all about him. Gotta have dessert, right? I think its a fun tradition.

     

    Post # 53
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    Helper bee

    @lovelylight99:  

    I don’t get the point of a groom’s cake.  To me it just looks like the couple can’t even compromise and agree on a cake.  It leaves a really bad impression on me for a wedding.  If he has his heart set on a particular cake then why can’t you just make him happy and make it the actual wedding cake?

    Post # 54
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @sehrler:  That’s soooo cool!

    PS Super happy someone got the joke!!!

    Post # 55
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My cousin’s wedding had the greatest grooms cake ever: A tower of glazed Krispy Kreme doughnuts. It was glorious and I ate like 2 (their cake was a “meh” because the fondant was about an inch thick and very, very red so it stained your lips).

    I will not be doing a grooms cake b/c I intend for both of us to like the wedding cake we choose together. That, and I’m more concerned with the flavor of our cake being excellent than whether or not it looks unique.

    Post # 56
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    A groom’s cake is more of a southern tradition. I guess some people do it to give more options for cake flavors. I’d love to surprise my Fiance with a James Bond cake, but he doesn’t really like sweets/desserts, so we’ll just have our reg. wedding cake.

    Post # 57
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @suburbian:  thanks, and I think I’ve seen that movie at least 100 times! So good, didn’t like the Lifetime remake though 🙁

    Post # 58
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @sehrler:  I was in the play in High School. I played Trudy…even though I didn’t have a 13 inch waist. lol

    Post # 59
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @suburbian:  “I haven’t left the house without Lycra on these thighs since I was 14!” LOL

    Post # 60
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I would like to add to the points that

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    housebee: made back at Reply # 18

    In truth the Groom’s Cake tradition began in the UK during the Victorian period… and was adopted in North America… and yes it was fruitcake originally… one light & one dark served at the Wedding. 

    The light fruit cake (much like a pound cake but with fruit) was the Wedding Cake… the dark fruit cake (laced with lots of alcohol) was the Groom’s Cake.  And it was this cake that was cut, boxed and sent home with the Ladies to dream upon (and in some cases it was the a dark fruitcake that was the smallest top layer of the Wedding Cake… so with all the booze in it, it would keep well, hence the tradition of the couple having some of their Wedding Cake to serve at the Christening of their first child).

    Where I grew up in Canada, there is a strong Scottish-English connection… and very much a Victorian influence.  So when I was married the first time (circa 1980) this tradition of having a fruitcake Wedding Cake was very much alive.  As was the idea of having a slice to take home to dream upon / for good luck.

    PHOTO – Circa 1980s.  Bride & Groom Ceremonial Cake Cutting.  (Not my personal photo… but one that clearly captures what that era looked like… the Wedding Cake layers on pillars, Fruitcake with Royal Icing.  And the Bride & Groom fitted out in their Wedding Attire of the time)

    Therefore, a slice of the Tiered Fruitcake Wedding Cake was served at the Reception, and an additional small “finger” slice (maybe 2″ W x 1″ D x 4″ H) was pre-cut from an iced sheet cake, wrapped in saran, folded into a paper doily, tied with a ribon (which sometimes had tiny plastic silver colour horseshoes attached), and then packaged into an appropriately sized souvenir box for just this purpose (either in one’s Wedding Colours, or printed withe B&G Names & Date) and given out to the Guests as a favour to take home… for them to enjoy later, dream upon… or share with someone who wasn’t invited.

     

     

     

    Infact, often the Bride & Groom would mail out these small boxed bits of cake to the Guests who hadn’t been able to attend… so they too might get “a taste” of what they sadly had to miss.

    Back in 1980, the whole traditon of the “Southern Groom’s Cake” was just becoming known in my neck of the woods… and the idea that a Wedding Cake could be something other than Fruitcake.  In which case, the Groom’s Cake was a chance to have perhaps Chocolate or Spice Cake for the guy at the Wedding, while the Wedding Cake would be a White Pound Cake.

    It wasn’t until the 1990s or so that Wedding Cakes with layers of many flavours came into fashion.  I think this is because baking / presentation techniques got better as well.  Prior to then a “stacked” cake just wouldn’t have survived (lol, I know because I asked a similar Question back in 1980… when my Ex inquired about us going with the new trend of a White Cake vs Fruitcake… and he wondered if we could get a layer in chocolate… we were told it wasn’t do-able cause of the density / weight of the varying layers)

    Lol, just another trip down memory lane…

     

    Post # 61
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    Sugar Beekeeper

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    @atlbride2013:  Same here.

     

    I also have never have undestood the point. My DH chose the flavor of our cake and I chose the design (because he could have cared less what it looked like) so it wasn’t necessary to have another cake.

     

    To be fair for the rehearsal dinner we had fresh baked, warm chocolate chips cookies in his honor. So I guess that was our “groom’s cake.”

     

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