- 4 years ago
Sometimes I have a hard time getting excited about a wedding becuase my family is not very supportive. Here is the back story: My mom passed away when I was 19 and we were very close. My dad and I drifted apart and he and I are more like friends. He loves me, but he thinks large weddings are not genuine or important. My little brother eloped and skipped a wedding all together. My fiance’s family is amazingly supportive and want a wedding as much as my fiance and I do. I go back and forth sometimes about wheather a wedding is worth it. I will be spending thousands of dollars to have my family come to a wedding they are not excited about.
My brother and father love me and I have a good relationship with my family overall. No one in my family has big weddings and marriage is not something they value. My fiance’s family, in contrast, loves big celebrations and values marriage highly. My concern is my family will hold this wedding against me for the rest of my life. For example, if my car breaks down I am concerned my father will say, “you should have skipped the wedding and got a decent car.” He may be right in some ways…he is certaintly practical. I just hope I am making a wise decision to have a wedding and hope for a lovely day. Let me know your thoughts, I would love any thoughts/opinions on this.