(Closed) Groom's family making me really REALLY think about our future…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t have any advice, but just wanted to say I’m so sorry you are going through this.  I can’t believe his family is acting that way, especially just now 10 years into your relationship. 

And this…

“She also posted the link to our wedding website which included the event locations and times and said “if anyone is is Vegas during the wedding you can crash it” “

Oh.MY.GOSH.  Did you ask the forum owner to remove the thread?

Post # 5
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240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Holy crap…there really are no words i can say given that she’s basically told the entire interwebs that you suck and that people should crash your wedding…

In short:  *hugs*  You are a total class act for not trying to actually kill that woman.  

What does your fiance say about all of this????

Post # 6
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8432 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Whilst I don’t condone your FMIL’s action I think it might be steaming from the fact that she feels left out of your wedding planning process. You even said that she commented on it. Naturally since Future Sister-In-Law is including her in her planning they are clearly bonding and comiserating together about you.

 

Post # 7
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511 posts
Busy bee

Who knows what your FMIL’s issues are but clearly there are some.  Don’t take them on, not even one little bit.  If she wants to behave like a spoiled brat that’s entirely her prerogative, but do know that the only thing she’s going to be rewarded with in this case is getting close to someone as selfish and intolerant as she is.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What a nightmare! I am so so sorry. Your Future Mother-In-Law is 100% immature, selfish and possibly crazy. I have no real advice for you on what to do other than keep your distance and try not to feed into it. I have no idea what I’d think about the long term if I were you! I wish you the best.

Post # 9
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734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

That really, really sucks… I’m so sorry you have to deal with that. I really don’t understand some people. I’m also really surprised you haven’t exploded on your Future Mother-In-Law… I don’t know if I could hold back..

My fiance has a bit of a complicated family, thankfully nothing like that against me, but I can at least sympathize with your future in-law drama. Best of luck to you and try to keep calm… I’m the type of person who always takes things personally when I shouldn’t and I don’t know if you’re the same or not, but just try to remember that this all has nothing to do with you. Your Future Mother-In-Law has something going on… I don’t know what it is, but it isn’t about you.

Good luck!

Post # 10
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3639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

*hugs* What did she say when you told her that you knew about the posts?

Perhaps she doesn’t feel that there is anyway that she can “come back from” that and really, how could she? 

I’m so sorry. It’s good to know that your Fiance is on your side though.

Post # 11
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506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am very sorry to hear you are dealing with this. All I can offer is telling you to take a deep breath. Be greatful your Fiance is on your side- I’ve read on here many times where that is not the case and never will be. Hopefully, post wedding, you two can find some sort of common ground, otherwise hope you can keep visits to a minimum. It seems clear she is going through something especially to react this way after ten years. Best of luck dealing with this. : )

Post # 12
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157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

O.M.G that is insane- honestly i would never be able to get over that posting stuff not only about you, but your family, and how she hopes your marriage ends is horrible and shows her true character- BUT then she POSTS WHERE YOUR GETTING MARRIED AND ASKED PEOPLE TO CRASH- what an immature psycho even if she doesnt like you this is her son’s day. what did you say to her?? what did your Fiance do, my Fiance flips out anytime anyone is rude or hurtful to me or my family, to be honest I think he would not talk to her for a lot time, maybe never agin. How is your Fiance with all this? I am so sorry your going through this 🙁 ppl are a**holes keep updated! huggs

Post # 13
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381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@leah8746:  Our wedding is next weekend – ever since we got engaged his family did a complete 360 – it’s just never ending.. his mother – dont even get me started on his mother.. one of his sisters – dont even get me started on that.. LIKE A PSYCHO FAMILY I could write you a book.  The closer we get to the wedding – the more ridiculous his family is being.. I can’t take it anywhere so I hope that I can get through the next 8 days without just going insane… and also – I’m hoping that after the wedding I can simply tell them to F off and enjoy my life with my hubby – he knows that I only plan on going to his parents house for holidays and he said he’s ok with that because well he’s on my side.  I wish I had advice for you but I dont – sorry, just wanted to let you know that you’re not the only one 🙂

Post # 14
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1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow,she sucks! I thought my Future Mother-In-Law was bad…good luck dealing with her.

Post # 15
Hostess
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ugh!  I’m sorry you have to deal with this.  Shame on her!!  Kudos to you for not losing your cool.  I absolutely would have!!  Like other PP have asked — what does your fiance say/feel about the whole situation?  And how did Future Mother-In-Law react when she found out that you found her post??

Post # 16
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Your Future Mother-In-Law sounds kind of nuts. It’s one thing to have a personal issue with something going on in your family, but a whole other kind of crazy to post the details of your son’s wedding on the internet and ask a bunch of strangers to crash it. 

Wow. Just wow.

I don’t think you’re the wedge coming between your Fiance and his mom. She sounds like she’s doing fine driving him away on her own, here.

How does he feel about all this, btw? Have you talked to him? Has he talked to his mom?

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. 

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