(Closed) Groom’s footwear: need opinions please

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: What do you think of the shoes?
    Chucks are fun and cute for the whole wedding : (25 votes)
    57 %
    Chucks are great for the reception, but just not formal enough for the ceremony : (9 votes)
    20 %
    Chucks are fine for everyday but shouldn't make an appearance at the wedding : (10 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2006 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I really like the look of chucks/vans with nice suits! If girls can have fun with their wedding shoes why can’t the guys?

    Post # 4
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    8354 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I think they are great and it doesn’t matter what other people think.

    Post # 5
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    45649 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Lots of grooms and groomsmen are wearing chucks. It does look better though if they all wear them, otherwise the groom would stand out.

    this bride even got in on the action!

    Post # 6
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    96 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Well since you asked—with a suit I think they look sloppy, gimmicky and like the person is trying to hard.  But, perhaps gimmicky and fun is a look he is going for.  I do not judge. These are legitimate aims for how someone wants to present himself. If it fits the occassion, who gives a sh*t?

    I only object to the concept that dress shoes somehow look out of place on a grown-up.  There is no way dress shoes can look out of place on a man.  What does he wear to, say, funerals or job interviews? That’s rhetorical.  I’m just sayin’.

    Post # 7
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    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It’s a cute idea, but it’s not my fav. I think that dress shoes would make it look more formal. I just think that they stick out too much. 

    Post # 8
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    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Do it!

    Post # 9
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    3098 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    My hubs wore chucks! Do it!

    Post # 10
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    27 posts
    Newbee

    The bestman at my daughter’s wedding is wearing black patten leather ones with aqua shoe laces to match his vest. I think it’s fun and he is always the life of the party. Laughing

    Post # 12
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    722 posts
    Busy bee

     To me they stand out so much they take away from him as a whole. Instead of ” look how nice the groom looks”, it is  “look at the groom’s shoes.” The items are fine separately but together they stand out-like wearing wing tips with shorts.

    Post # 13
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    13101 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I second cakegal – they stand out too much to the point were they take away from the whole look.  People will be paying too much attention to the shoes and not enough to your FI.

    If he wants to break them out for the reception, that’s another thing and I’d say that’s fine.  But not for the ceremony.

    Also – like Verno Inferno – I don’t buy what you say about your FI looking out of place in dress shoes.  He may never wear them so you may not be used to the look but I promise you – no grown man looks out of place in dress shoes at the proper occasion (like a wedding), not matter what is profession/personality/etc.

    Post # 14
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    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Personally I think there’s lots of different shoe options. Would I like my groom to wear Chucks? No. And he doesn’t wear dress shoes either. There’s lots of other shoes out there that can pass for smart black shoes that don’t have to be formal. But that’s just IMO. I’ve seen beautiful weddings with them and I’ve seen not so beautiful ones. All in the eye of the beholder and all that.

    Post # 15
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    45649 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If the brother is wearing flip flops, he may look dressed up in chucks!

    If you do decide against the chucks, I can understand him not wanting to spend money on a pair of shoes he will never wear again.

    Could he borrow a pair from a close friend or family member? Or buy a pair at a thrift or consignment shop? Or buy a cheap pair at Target or K Mart?

    Post # 16
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    96 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @nonimouse12:

    Can he get away with them? Or will people just be hating the shoes and not notice how nice everything else looks?

    What you wear communicates something about you, and on a certain level it also communicates what you feel about the occassion and the people around you.  For the people who know your fiance, they’re going to probably love it and will understand what he’s communicating with the shoe choice.  You and his family know him and understand why it’s going to be a quirky nod to his fun, dressed-down lifestyle.   For people at the wedding who don’t know him well, the reaction will run the gamut: some will think it’s awesome, some will think it’s weird and wonder who the heck nonimouse12 is marrying and why didn’t he bother to put on dress shoes for his own wedding.

    Honestly, most people won’t care one way or the other.  They came for the beer.

    So yes, he can get away with them. And yes, some people will be hating the shoes. But that’s sort of the required response when someone breaks the rules a bit, right?  If everyone thought it looked great then it would cease to be “different” or edgy. This isn’t one of those things were you’ll get everyone on board.

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