Post # 1
Has anyone ever heard of the groom wearing makeup on his wedding day? My fiance has a few red spots on his skin from acne (most of them not actual acne but scars and red blotches) and I would love not to have to see them in our wedding photos. All it would take is a little concealer and there would be such an improvement. The change would be quite subtle——probably no one but he and I would notice because (ideally) it would look so natural.
I haven’t broached the subject with him yet because if I can tell him that others have done it he might be more amenable to the idea. Then again, maybe I’m crazy for even suggesting such a thing and getting overworked about how the photos will look. There’s a decent chance he’ll go for it regardless if I say it’s really important to me and if I offer to apply it clandestinely so no one else has to witness the ignominy :).
What (if anything) are you all doing if your grooms have less than perfect skin? How have you approached the subject? Thanks everyone!
Post # 3
My best friends hubby had me apply concealer to his "splotches" he called them on their wedding day. When he was getting ready, we just found some private time and I dabbed a little MAC concealer on him. (he has a skin pigment problem so it was a bit more coverage than a few acne marks) it was pretty painless and having a womans light touch was probably best.
We never told anyone. He just told his groomsmen that he wanted a moment alone with me to give a message to his bride, they all "whoo hooo’d" over it and then cleared the room.
The sweetest part, was after the wedding was all over a few days later he sent me a personal note thanking him for being his "best woman" *snif* Guys want to look their best too!
As for your groom, if the subject is a touchy one, why don’t you talk to your photographer first? Most can edit/photoshop out any blemish marks. Especially since you say only he and you would notice, I would just leave the whole thing alone. If it’s not a big deal, why make it one?
Post # 4
So funny… when I was Maid/Matron of Honor, the groom asked if I would send the make-up artist over to the men’s locker room when she was done with us because he had a pimple. Turned out that one of his groomsmen said "Don’t worry, dude, I’ve got concealer in my bag!" Everyone burst out laughing. Its one of the things I will always remember about that wedding!
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2018 - R.H. Phillips Winery
If you hunny IS worried about having to wear makeup, your photographer should offer touch-up services on your photographs. This way you both feel comfortable on the wedding day – and get fab photos afterwards.
Post # 6
My fh keeps a small bottle of acne medication that works as conceler for special occasions. When we had our engagement photos taken, he let me put a thin coat of powder on him to get rid of his shiny spots!
Post # 7
Last year, one of my closest friends got married. Her husband kept sending people over to where the bride and us bridesmaids were to ask for the MAC Studio foundation (Spray) so he could spray his head/face and have an eve/perfect skin tone. It actually looked amazing! I recommend it. Just approach it like you would tv or actors—everyone wants to look great for such important photos! 🙂
Post # 8
Not that this covers the makeup section of things, but any photog you hire will touch up photos and you can simply ask her/him to make sure that they are not there in the finished photos. In this day and age, it’s unheard of for there not to be some kind of touch ups offered or simply done..
My Fiance has the same issue, and I’m going to try some refining mask from ProActive, because it tends to reduce the redness from left over scars and stuff. You can get it in an introductory kit for $20 for the whole thing.
Also, Mederma is a scar medication that really helps reduce that redness on – if he started it now, it could lower it considerablly by the wedding.
Post # 9
@mspomegranate and sweeney2be, our photographer definitely offers touching up of the photos, but it seems like it would be so much less work in the long run for him to just wear a little concealer or foundation!
@shibaby, good call on pitching it as something actors would do!
Post # 10
I work at a modeling agency in the men’s division. Its not uncommon for men to wear a little concealer and powder. Even the ones with flawless skin wear it.
But if he’s not comfortable doing it, he may not feel very confidant during the day, so then you should let the photographer just touch up any trouble spots.
Post # 11
As a photographer who’s shot hundreds of weddings, I’m honestly not aware of any of my grooms who have worn makeup. Maybe they did and it was done so well that I didn’t notice! 🙂 Or maybe it’s just a regional thing? In any case it’s not a bad idea if the blotches or scars bother him.
If he doesn’t want to wear makeup, then definitely talk to your photographer to see if there are any additional fees for retouching. I personally do basic light retouching of the closeup portraits for free if there is obvious acne problems, but if the retouching requests are extensive then it’s not uncommon for additional cost. Hope that helps!
Post # 12
I just realzed that I never really answered your question. First, he automatically uses tinted acne creme (he has two younger sisters that talked him into it years ago), so I never really have to worry about that.
For the engagment photo session I simply asked him if he wouldn’t mind me powdering his face a little to get rid of his shine. He asked me what with and I showed him. Then he said sure. Like it was no big deal. One thing I’ve learned is that men are a little more vain than we give them credit for and that they want to make us happy!
Post # 13
My husband wore concealer on our wedding day. I had asked Sachiko to cover up some of his blemishes so when we stood next to each other in pics I didn’t look like a porcelain doll and he an oily blotch. Husband agreed that my reasoning was valid and on the day of she spent 10 minutes with him and he looked awesome in pics! I asked him that day if he felt weighed down by the "makeup" and he said not at all, he hardly noticed it at all!
Post # 14
do makeup artists usually charge to do minimal touch-ups on the groom?
Post # 15
My wedding day make-up artist charges $15 for groom’s make-up (by contract, bride is $50 and bridesmaids are $40).
My Fiance has expressed some interest in wearing some in case he gets any blemishes or anything like that.
Post # 16
I went to a wedding last weekend where the groom was getting ‘touched up’ by the bride’s sister! It made him feel less self-conscious (and made for some of the funniest pictures of the day!)