(Closed) Groom’s parents prefer to call guests rather than send invites.

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 6
3332 posts
Sugar bee

I definitely agree that you and your Fiance need to have an honest conversation with his parents and explain that you prefer to send paper invitations (for the reasons that you mentioned).  Have you already determined how many people your ILs are inviting?  I know a lot of people divide up the guest list, giving each set of parents x-number of people or tables or something.  Even if you do that, I’d advise you to get a list of the people and send your invitations yourself.  

Post # 7
53 posts
Worker bee

I agree with all of the above.  Perhaps there is a way to compromise?  Maybe you could have his parents make up their guest list and call all of them, and then send the formal invitation after?  That way they will still be able to have the personal connection with their friends and family, but you can still have peace of mind that they received a formal invitation.

Post # 8
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Wow. You should be able to send invites … I think you should just have your fiance get the addresses from his parents.

Post # 9
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I would tell them its okay to call but you would want to send out a formal invitation out too.

Post # 10
952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Let them call after the invites have arrived. If they wanted to do this, they should have let you know BEFORE you spent the money on the invites!

Post # 11
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

You need to either grab the phone numbers and call these people yourself to get the addresses to send invites to, or you need to seriously have a talk with your fiance’s parents to make sure that they will get the addresses. And give them a deadline!

Post # 12
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Woah… wtf? i would call up your Future Mother-In-Law and talk to her voicing your concerns – everyone else already mentioned them – no control over guest list, not knowing if they are coming or not (they could easily tell your Future Mother-In-Law they are coming and back out as it’s just a verbal acceptance), no addresses for thank you’s, and not to mentioned a lot of wasted money. If nothing else be straight with her and tell her that you have already spent $200 on these inviations and have them ready to be mailed; that should light some fire under her butt. Or tell her to reimburse you for the cost lost 🙂

Post # 13
4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I understand the thought process behind it, but it’s just not functional for a wedding. Maybe they can call to tell them that a wedding invitation is COMING and to catch up with people that they want to talk to, but then send an invitation with all the specifics. I wouldn’t want to trust my numbers to a conversation that might get off track and then have the Future In-Laws come back with a “they said see you soon….so I guess they’re coming?” answer.

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