- 4 years ago
Now this post may seem pathetic so i must say two things in advance
1. I know my wedding day is a much bigger and harder day for my bride than it is for me.
2. I have never suffered a panic attack or what i term a panic attack (not able to breathe) – i have never taken anxiety meds
But here goes anyway…
I am terrified about my wedding day (august 2). Its only ten days away, everything is pretty much sorted but i cannot stop obsesssing about making a fool out of myself. I am terrified about having to light the candle as i think my hands will be so shaky that i wont be able to manage it – every time i wake up in the morning i have a feeling of dread about the day and just cannot clear my head
My fiance is just awesome , she has told me not to do a toast (speech) to make the day easier for me. Now in theory thats all grooms should worry about but not me! Im so sad , i worry about not being able to light a candle, how sad is that !! Its like when i decided on not doing a toast then i just moved on to something else to obsess about
I do readings at mass regularly where i leave my seat and go to the pulpit and say the reading in front of about 60 people or so. It always goes fine . Do you think if i find this ok then i will be ok at the wedding ? Im not worried about hte speaking part of hte mass, just being up there in front of friends and family and not being able to do what im supposed to do cos of shaky legs / hands and everyone laughing
I will be havning 1-2 small whiskeys before the ceremony so hopefully that will calm me down and we are also doing the first look ( im in ireland and this is practically unheard of over here)
I apologise for opening this thread being a groom when you ladies have such a harder time than me with walking up the aisle etc.