Post # 1
Hello all, I am seeking some advice to handle my bridesmaid situation. I have chosen two girls since we wanted to keep it small. I chose my best friend for Maid/Matron of Honor and my Fiance sister for the other bridesmaid.She lives in florida and i chose her because I thought it would be nice and I would like to form a closer relationship wth her since I do not have any siblings. The only problem is that she lives in Florida. My Maid/Matron of Honor and her have never met and now that the shower plans have started my Maid/Matron of Honor is unsure as to if she is going tobe contributing or not. My mom and Aunt have offered to split costs for the shower and the Maid/Matron of Honor is responsible for getting the cake. I have texted and called my Fiance sister in Florida and have gotten no response. I dont want to be pushy but I feel like she agreed to be a part of this and should at least answer my calls. If she didnt want to be in the wedding she could have politely declined and i would have been just fine with it. Im almost to the point of saaying forget it but I dont want to cause any family issues. Any suggestions or similar situations???
Post # 3
Maybe have your Fiance talk to his sister or what about your FMIL?
Post # 4
I’d probably try to contact her again. Send an email to both bridesmaids about bridesmaidy-type things and see if she responds to that?
If not, maybe having your Fiance give her a ring would be useful.
Post # 5
It’s common for out of state BMs to not be expected to attend pre-wedding parties. It sounds to me like Future Sister-In-Law doesn’t want to attend (after all it would be very costly for her) and is avoiding calls. In my opinion, you shouldn’t be expecting her to attend. And anyway, it sounds like it’s mostly taken care of.
If it was me, I would make contact with her, and leave a message saying that I’d like to talk, assure that I’m not expecting her to fly in for the bridal shower but just want to re-establish contact.
Post # 6
Thank you all for your responses, she actually contacted me last night and said she had been on a cruise the last week. She said she is going to try to make it and i agree with paula that i shouldnt expect her to attend which i did make clear to her that i understand conpletely if she couldnt make it. i liked the idea of sending a mass email to the two. would it be rude of me to ask her to contribite for the favors if she doeant attend. im not too worried about it, i really just dont want to offend anyone. like most of us here this is my first time doing this. Thank you!!!
Post # 7
@jeasterw: I personally wouldn’t ask her to contribute. She isn’t expected to, but if she offers then great.