Post # 1
Kind of backwards I know but here’s the story: my fiance wanted to wear a kilt. While his family is not really entrenched in their family history, it is important to my guy. The grooms, among other people, were not so jazzed about the kilt idea, and in the end, he decided against it (it wasn’t me!)
His solution was to buy tartan ties for the groomsmen and to wear a tartan vest instead. I thought that this was such a lovely and sweet sentiment. This is his wedding too so when he showed me the colors all I could do is smile at how much the wedding means to him and wince at the Christmas colors of the tartan tie.
I know that there are many in betweens but it obviously knocked a bunch of colors out of the picture and to choose a color in the tie makes the entire party look as if they should be hanging from the chimney with care.
Post # 3
without seeing the tie and vest, I can suggest the following:
yellow (for contrast and to brighten up your pictures, bonus if there is a yellow stripe in the tie)
hope this helps!
Post # 4
Post # 5
Is this tartan that he chose his family’s tartan? Or is it just one that he liked?
I had a friend who married into a very scottish family and all of the groomsmen, etc. wore kilts in blue/green. The bridesmaid dresses were red and it didn’t look christmas-y at all. So maybe using a colour like dark blue will help prevent it from being too christmas-y.
Are there any other colours in the tartan that are not the green/red? That would be a good colour to have your bridesmaids in.
Good luck! 🙂
Edit: I just looked at your photo and there is no red in it. So if that is the case, I’d choosen either green or blue (or a mixture of both!) and it should look just fine!
Post # 6
I’d pull out one of the blues and add a red or cream accent.
Or what if the girls had a simple black dress and you added the tartan trim. I mean the guys are in black and tartan already right? This also gives them the option to take the trim off later and they’ve have a nice LBD to wear again.
Additionally, you could make the attendants flowers match the tartin exactly. It might still be a bit Chrimassy to you but at least it’s just the flowers and not the girls.
Just my two cents anyways – and a few notes on the bagpipes for you! Good luck!
Post # 7
Thanks for posting the pic. I would pull out the green. It looks somewhat muted so I think a moss or sage green would look great and not very Christmas-y at all (stay away from hunter green)
also I still think yellow could work and your wedding date is early enough in the fall that you could get away with it 🙂
Post # 8
Such great suggestions! Thank you! His family is so not into their heritage but he is so I want to honor that. It is the colors of his clan (MacKay).
The colors I am leaning to for the wedding are moss green, brown, and a little light blue but the more I look at yellow at weddings, the more I love it.
I’m trying to steer away from somber but a moss green would work. The wedding is Oct 10th and right now in CT the temperatures have been in the 70s so we could go bright!
Post # 9
I feel your pain. My fiance is also crazy about his heritage. He is no more Scots than I am, but you wouldn’t know it. He and all his grooms man are wearing kilts. He even wants a bagpiper to pipe them in. (be grateful for small miracles that your fiance has not made this request).
His tartan is red and blue and green and yellow and black. YIKES. We compromised with him wearing a tartan that wasn’t his family tartan. (green and brown) There are some very nice green bridesmaid dresses out there:
http://www.morilee.com/DressDetail.aspx?C=3&D=203&P=1 (pick the patina color)
http://www.alfredangeloca.com/Collections/ProductDisplay.aspx?productID=54933601-1453-4ae6-a212-a5a2aa863b49&categoryID=053f22f3-72d9-4a6d-af34-392c45fe8c96&pg=0 (chose hunter)
Blue would work very nicely too. I’m having green bridesmaid dresses and yellow flowers.
Here’s something weird: the mackay tartan is my family tartan, and your wedding day is my fiance’s and i’s anniversary.
Here’s another way his heritage could be put into play if you decide against the vest idea. We are having the guests chose who’s tartan we are going to take as a family tartan. If you have even the smallest bit of scotish blood you could do that.
Or use the family crest as part of the details of the wedding
The Mackay clan motto is "with a firm hand". KInd of hard to work that in the wedding because it sounds like they go around smacking people around. We are leaving that part out…
Post # 10
Thank you, caithe! I knew I wasn’t the only one out there – and gosh I don’t want to take away his um, heritage, but sheesh, color scheme is out the window. It’s a challenge – like a Project Runway challenge. As Tim Gunn would say "Ok Marnie, make it work"
I am extremely grateful that the scottishness ends at the ties (i hope!) I will probably paste your response and add it to my wedding files. I laughed so hard I cried.
Post # 11
Here’s another idea: Give him clan Mackay cufflinks. Who knew they existed right? I’m toying with the idea of giving them to my fiance.
The cufflinks here are rediculously overpriced but it gives you the idea. There are loads of sites selling this kind of thing; i’ve seen as low as $20.
He gets another piece of heritage, he can use it again, and it is subtle (the anti-bag pipe).
Also tell your future hubby that he is lucky to have a bride that would even consider plaid. My fiance and I have a running joke that goes something like this:
me: does the color of my skirt match my shirt?
him: I don’t know. I like plaid.
Moral of the story: plaid is synonymous with bad/strange fashion taste. That you are will to run with this is a sign that you are an awesome catch and deserve foot rubs.
Okay, this post is totally off in left field but i’m happy to have found a kindred (plaid) spirit.
Post # 12
I just looked at the picture of the tartan – my suggestion is navy blue Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, and then use whites, creams, and moss green in the flowers, paper products, and cake. That tartan is beautiful – and as some PP have mentioned, it could be worse!
Post # 13
you know, my gut reaction after seeing the colors was a golden yellow. it would look so lovely with that. since your wedding is in october, golden yellow would work as well since that is a fall color still. either that or a satiny dark brown if you want to go for more muted tones. But my vote is for the golden yellow. that would give it such a nice pop of color but still looks so great together.
Post # 14
I think a navy or emerald or moss green would look lovely and not at all Christmas-y
Post # 15
You could go with the yellow or the blue in the tie, those would play down the christmassy feel
Post # 16
She probably already decided since her wedding was last October 🙂