Post # 1
Hi all –
We’re having a NYC wedding in July, formal but not black tie, and black and white theme. My fiance is purchasing his own tux, which will be black with a black bow tie. He wants the fathers to wear tuxes with white bow ties or regular white ties. I thought that sounded lovely until my dad told me that’s now how it’s done – it’s usually the other way around, if white is used at all. Thoughts? Is there a “right” way to do this? Any advice or thoughts on what I should do?
Post # 3
What are the fathers wearing? White tuxes and white bow ties? Or black tuxes and white bow ties? If it’s white/white then I think your father has a good point. I wouldn’t want the fathers wearing white tuxes and not the groom. But, if it’s black/white then I think it’s fine. I don’t think it matters what color the bow tie is, as long as there’s a theme.
There is not “right” way to do anything IMO. But there are ways that may look better 🙂
Post # 4
Usually, the groom is the one that wears the white, so he can match the bride, so you dad is correct; however, these days almost anything goes.
Post # 5
Thanks, guys! The dads will be wearing black traditional tuxes as well. The question was just about the tie/bow. We’re not having a traditional bridal party – my two best friends will be in long black dresses with white bouquets and my fiance’s two brothers will be in black suits with white ties – so we figured we would tell the fathers to pick a tux they liked and accessorize it with a bow or tie of their choice. My fiance is set on wearing a black tux and black bow tie, though, so I wasn’t sure what to do about the others. But you’re right – anything probably goes today as long as it’s within reason. 🙂