(Closed) Groomsman Admitted That He Wants to Break Us Up–Advice Please

posted 11 years ago in Relationships
Post # 18
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2006

Sadly this is not terribly uncommon.  It happened to me and when I was upset about it during lunch I found out it happened to several of my co-workers (all female) as well.  When you tell your best friend of 10 years that you just got engaged and her response is “He doesn’t love you he must be gay and just using you as a cover” its very upsetting!

My fiancee told me that if I still wanted her in the wedding party he was OK, but that he did not like the idea that someone at the alter with us was actively hating him.  When you put it that way, there was not way that I could have her in our wedding party. Men however tend to be less confrontational with their friends; they never seem to “break up” just “get too busy to hang out” if you know what I mean.

But here’s some hope for you . . . More than 3 years later we have basically gone our different ways.  When we do have contact she is like a fly buzzing, trying to get me to break up with my husband — even going so far as to offer me a room in her house to live in so I “have a place to go”.  It annoys my Hubby and I, so I naturally limit my contact with her.  Possibly something like that will happen in this situation!

Post # 19
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

the purpose of the wedding party is to have people who will witness and support your union as a couple–if he doesn’t support the union he shouldn’t be in the wedding party. period. 

Post # 20
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Your FH needs to confront “Steve” about this. He should also let your Future Mother-In-Law know that he’s having trouble with this friend and his opion isn’t to be trusted.

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