Post # 17
Thanks for the advice, again.
I just got an update (again more of a confirmation), but he’s been reading my wedding blog and calling Future Sister-In-Law to chat about it. HUH??? Who does that? Writing is my hobby, it’s something I love. And our wedding is something that is very special to both of us, which is why I bother blogging about it in the first place! My dear Future Sister-In-Law thought he would appreciate the link and sent it to him, now they chat and laugh about it. I guess it’s a blessing that I haven’t had time to keep up with it too much. What a loser.
Post # 18
Sadly this is not terribly uncommon. It happened to me and when I was upset about it during lunch I found out it happened to several of my co-workers (all female) as well. When you tell your best friend of 10 years that you just got engaged and her response is “He doesn’t love you he must be gay and just using you as a cover” its very upsetting!
My fiancee told me that if I still wanted her in the wedding party he was OK, but that he did not like the idea that someone at the alter with us was actively hating him. When you put it that way, there was not way that I could have her in our wedding party. Men however tend to be less confrontational with their friends; they never seem to “break up” just “get too busy to hang out” if you know what I mean.
But here’s some hope for you . . . More than 3 years later we have basically gone our different ways. When we do have contact she is like a fly buzzing, trying to get me to break up with my husband — even going so far as to offer me a room in her house to live in so I “have a place to go”. It annoys my Hubby and I, so I naturally limit my contact with her. Possibly something like that will happen in this situation!
Post # 19
the purpose of the wedding party is to have people who will witness and support your union as a couple–if he doesn’t support the union he shouldn’t be in the wedding party. period.
Post # 20
Your FH needs to confront “Steve” about this. He should also let your Future Mother-In-Law know that he’s having trouble with this friend and his opion isn’t to be trusted.