(Closed) Groomsman Dilemma….

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
7 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think you should leave it up to him.  He already picked him, so there must be a reason that he wants him there.  Hopefully he behaves himself for one day.  I guess I would maybe have your FH to talk to him to make sure everything will be cool.


Post # 4
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Have you considered an uneven number? The Groomsmen and Bridesmaid or Best Man don’t have to match. Generally I feel if there’s any doubt, leave them out.

Post # 5
1789 posts
Buzzing bee

Do you honestly think leaving him in the wedding party will create that much of an issue? I dont mean this to sound mean like this does in my head as it does as Im typing it. Cause if he is only walking down an isle, standing up at an altar with him, and posing for pictures I dont think it will be that much of an issue. And if your Fiance chose him, he must mean something to him, or at least MEANT something to him. Alot of people want a matching wedding party. I have OCD so mine MUST match LOL. I would gently ask your Fiance to talk to him as previuosly suggested to make sure everthying is settled on the sobriety issue like for bachelor party reasons and such. Is he the best man, or just a GM?

Post # 6
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think your Fiance is free to choose whomever he wishes to be in the wedding party. 

Post # 8
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

my major red flag is why, oh why, does your groom want this guy in your wedding if he calls you names? If my FI’s friend and groomsman called me a name, i guarantee you they would be having a serious talk and nine times out of ten i would never have to see the asshole again. Does your groom know his friend treats you this way?

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