- Steampunk Angel
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Ok, backstory. I’ll try to make it short.
The players in this story are 2 groomsmen (which I shall refer to as G1 and G2) and groomsman 1’s girlfriend (who shall be referred to as Bitch).
K so I met G1 through our best man and became friends with him too about two years ago, when my fiance came to america he in turn also became friends with him and they have been friends for about a year and a half. We met G2 through G1 and became friends with him too, for about a year and a half now. G1’s gf Bitch I only vaguely knew through my Maid/Matron of Honor + facebook, never really talked to her.
Well ever since my fiance went back G1 just stopped wanting to hang out with not just me but a number of our mutual friends. I figured well we are all busy it happens but he also didn’t seem interested in talking to me and just had this air of arrogence like he thought he was the shit and too good for his old friends anymore. Before this he was bragging about how he was going to sleep with all the bridesmaids like it was his mission because he was still a virgin (he was 19, now 20) and wanted to score big at the wedding, seemed like a joke maybe but if so a half joke. Well a few months ago he got with Bitch and finally did it so he started strutting even more since he lost his v card and he apparently felt that made him a man.
Now, my fiance and I are waiting until marriage, we are religious but that isn’t the reason why, its just how we are. And we have never tried to shove that on anyone else because really, I don’t give a shit what anyone else does I just live by my own rules. So anyway, I get invited to a slumber party by Bitch’s friend who is a mutual friend of mine, and I say sure since I’ve been to one before and wanted to get a few things for the honeymoon ;D Bitch looks surprised to see me at the beginning which made me feel slightly awkward since I was under the impression from my friend that she was allowed to invite multiple people, but I blew it off.
Anyway, getting to the point, at this party we were all laughing and having fun and as it was starting to wind down Bitch stands up and loudly says “Wow, you know [Steampunk Angel] I can’t wait to tell G1 about your reaction to this party because you know how your such a super prude and all”
Bitch. Did. Not.
First of all that was rude of her to say that so loudly in front of everyone at the party, secondly, I’m far from being a prude I’m just not loud about it with strangers (and at this party I was getting rowdy and such so I don’t know wth she was thinking) and thirdly, what, do they all sit around talking about me behind my back? Well I found out they were because I confronted her and in a calm but angry voice told her how rude she was and just because I chose to be a virgin til marriage didn’t mean I was prudish. I got out of her that her, G1 and other people “she can’t remember the names of because she was drinking” were sitting around talking bad about me behind my back. Then she tried backpedaling but it was too late.
When I left I texted G1 directly about it not only did he not apologise but he tried to defend his backstabbing rudeness by saying “I’m not the only one who thinks so”. I asked who else felt like talking bad about me behind my back and he didn’t answer me, not so much as a lets talk about this, as if he didn’t care if we stopped being friends or not. So I gave him a week, then I happened to get with one of the other groomsman who is also friends with him, and told him the situation and that I don’t want G1 to be groomsman anymore, after talking with my fiance of course. I told him not to tell anyone because my fiance said he wanted to be the one to say something when he got back.
Not two days later THATS when I get a text from G1, saying “we need to talk asap”. Its obvious to me that he was told and only wants to talk to me because its jepordising his ego trip of being a groomsman. But you know, I said fine lets talk and told him when I was off work, then, he doesn’t show up and doesn’t reschedule, so whatever. I’m sure that G1 and Bitch are not invited to the wedding anymore because I don’t want to have people in my life that I can’t trust.
Problem is with G2. He’s total best friends with G1 and I’m not sure right now if he will throw a hissy fit that G1 is no longer coming. G2 at least made efforts to keep in touch with us, and he is slightly more mature (he’s 21) and I do want to stay his friend, although I don’t know his thoughts on this (since no doubt G1 has been talking about it, saying who knows what). I don’t want to talk about it with either of them without my fiance since he is very angry and wants to handle it himself.
Ug I don’t even know if I’m just venting or looking for advice lol thoughts???