(Closed) Groomsman drama….*sigh* Vent??

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

It sounds like you’re friends with a lot of immature people, but I also think everyone in this situation is overreacting– including you.

This new girlfriend immature, you don’t have to be her friend and you should just ignore her instead of striking up this conversation about why people are talking about you behind your back.  All you had to do was have a coy smile and say something like “I guess you guys don’t really know me that well after all!”  If she’s actually bad, all you’re going to have to do is wait until your guy friend wises up and finds someone better.  Again, you don’t need to associate with her.  She is just a +1 on the guy’s invite.

G1 is immature because he’s backpedaling and proud of himself for finally having a girlfriend.  But really, his actions don’t need to affect you this much.  I would have said “hey, you hurt my feelings talking crap about Fiance and I waiting until marriage. That was rude.” and that would be the end of it.  He apologizes, you accept it. The end.  If he doesn’t apologize, it’s your FI’s job since you say they are closer.
 

 

Post # 5
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1777 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Conversation probably went like this:

G1- SA and Fiance are waiting till marriage, glad we did it!

G1 gf- oh that’s so sweet! (sarcastic)

G1- lol who cares let’s do it again.

 

Then she said something just because she knew it would piss you off (because she’s probably jealous).  You unfortunately took the bait- hook, line, and sinker.  So then she tried to make it sound like it was this big conspiracy thing against you.  It’s likely not.  Everyone in the situation sounds very young and a bit immature. 

As for G2, have your Fiance ask him how he is doing and see if anything comes out of the conversation.  Don’t make any assumptions.  Friends should be able to have a candid conversation with friends.

Post # 6
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3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

To be honest, I wouldn’t even care if he apologized.  Just back off from it and don’t let it get to you, there are much bigger problems out there. 

G2 is not your responsibility.  Putting all these expectations up is just going to bring more drama in your life– chill out.  Assume G2 is still in the wedding unless he approaches Fiance and asks to be out.  It will be fine. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I feel like I just read some sort of highschool drama story lol. Sorry, but I agree with the PPs, all parties involved (I’m sorry but including you) have over reacted and are really immature. I’d just take a deep breath and just let things ride out. I’m sure you have more important things to worry about than some immature couple.

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