Post # 1
Anyone else’s SO have that one friend you think is bad news? Well my fiance asked this friend to be in our wedding. He was even debating having him as best man. Luckily, my fiance chose a more responsible friend to carry out this important role.
So far this friend that i think is bad news has tried to basically piss me off with anything pertaining to the bachelor party. I know he does it to get a rise out of me. The most recent thing was me telling him when our rehearsal was. He has known the date for months. All of a sudden last night, 1 month before the wedding, he called my fiance and said he cant be at anything starting 2 weeks prior. This is due to his comitment to the National Guard. First off, I totally respect the Armed Forces and anyone who has served. I also get he does not get to choose when he has to go to annual training. He told us last night he has known about this training for months! I understand not being able to make it, but why would he wait so long to tell us? That is the thing that gets me. He said he just will show up before the wedding and figure it out as the ceremony goes because they are all the same. Uhhhh great. Oh… and he is definately that friend who will be having drinks before the ceremony.
Just needed to vent! I feel much better now! I just thought the role of a groomsman was to attend the rehearsal andthe ceremony.
Post # 3
it’s not the end of the world if he can’t make it to the rehearsal. It’s a wedding, not rocket science. Anyone with half a brain can figure out that day where to stand and what they’re supposed to do.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Itsallcomingtogether: He’ll figure it out, my DH was at rehearsal (clearly) and he still screwed up on the day of! It is annoying that he didn’t tell you, but what ya gonna do, some guys are just like that!
Post # 5
As a planned/type A person, the phrase “I’ll figure it out as it goes along” really gets to me. I can’t even. We have an unusual site/set up for our ceremony, so anyone who’s not at the rehearsal is going to kind of be screwed unless they pay SUPER attention to the people who were there.
Post # 6
@MrsWBS: I know he can figure it out, but for me its the fact that he didnt tell us when he has known for so long.
@vorpalette: Exactly! I am totally a type A when it comes to these sorts of things.
Post # 7
@Itsallcomingtogether: This could be good news. Make sure the best man plans the bachelor party for the first weekend when this guy is away with his Guard duties!
Post # 8
@Itsallcomingtogether: It’s not worth getting upset about. Would the outcome have been any different if you knew 3 months ago? The answer is probably no. I know it seems like a bit deal, but enjoy the last month of planning instead of being upset over little things. It will only ruin your experience for you!