(Closed) groomsman is searching for a plus one

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t see how you can offer him a plus one and then retract that because he is looking to bring a random – you can’t give a plus one with conditions. Either you’re up to capacity or you’re not, you can’t have it both ways 

Post # 3
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3244 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

 

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jmtwxoxo:  If you’re already over capacity why would you invite him to bring a plus one? I don’t think you can tell him no now…

Post # 6
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9521 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Then don’t give him a plus one at all…

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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jmtwxoxo:  I would give him a deadline as to when he needs to let you know by because you are at capacity and are trying to figure out seating… I wouldn’t tell him that there are conditions on who his plus one could be AFTER you already told him he could have one.

Post # 9
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698 posts
Busy bee

I think it is a little tacky to not allow someone in your wedding party to bring plus one. Can you blame him for wanting to have someone there with him even if it someone he has not known for a long time? 

Who wants to go to a wedding alone!? Especially when you are in it. You guys asked him to be in  your wedding… you need to allow him to bring a date. You cannot control who he brings as the same thing goes or your other guests.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

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MissJulianna:  I agree with this! You need to give him a deadline, like 2/3 weeks before the wedding because you need a final headcount. This could be an easy way to solve this…

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I wouldn’t worry about it and if he does end up bringing a random I would just let it go. Better to keep things friendly vs making it weird if he’s a good friend of yours.

My guest list was way over but I still gave everyone a +1 because I couldn’t very well pick and choose who got one and who didn’t…I have a few people who are bringing randoms or friends of theirs I’ve never met (just so they don’t have to come alone) and it sort of bugs me but at the end of the day it doesn’t matter that much. You probably won’t notice them that day anyway. 🙂

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

He’s a groomsman, and if anyone is getting “and guest,” that has to include the wedding party.  If you’re only doing specific invitations, e.g. “Bill and Judy” not “Judy, and Guest,” then you can invite just him.  But if anyone at all is getting an “and guest” invitation, you have to extend that courtesy to unattached members of the wedding party, as well, in my opinion.

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