(Closed) Groomsman Missing Rehearsal

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
7 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

@WeddingNaive:  I personally think missing the rehersal to go to a concert is a little unsensitive. Although if you talked to the bride and groom about being there for the rehersal but missing the dinner i think that would be an appropiate compermise. Since he is in the wedding the rehersal is an improtant event to go to. Otherwise he will not know his timing/and where he is needed to be durring the wedding.

Post # 4
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My wedding was very important to me, and I didn’t mind a bit that several people missed the rehearsal. I’d admit to the bride that you have made a scheduling mistake and won’t be able to attend; bonus points if your boyfriend lines up with another groomsman who will fill him in. It’s not realistic for a bride to expect every single member of the bridal party at the rehearsal.

Post # 5
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Talk to the couple and see how they feel about it.  They may be more understanding than you think.  For me personally, I would only expect the bridal party to be there the day of, everything else is a bonus.  You have a life too.

I know not every couple would feel like I would and might get upset if you miss the rehersal for a concert, so just bring it up and see if any compromise can be made.

Post # 6
2753 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We only have one attendant each, and my Maid/Matron of Honor is having to fly in from across the country. Due to her work schedule, she might not make it until late the night before the wedding and therefore would miss the totally casual combined bachelor/bacheloretty party (slash) rehersal dinner the night before. It’s not the same as a concert, but at the same time it still means she misses the event. I’m not sweating it. Life happens. As long as you let the couple know ASAP, I would hope they would understand. Also, have your groomsman talk to them a couple of nights before the wedding to make sure there isn’t something important he needs to know about the ceremony i.e. something more than just walking in, standing up, walking out.

Post # 7
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Our rehersal lasted all of ten minutes.  Everyone in my wedding party (not fgs) had been in a wedding before so they all knew the score.  We matched people up, and told the FG’s what to do and then went to eat. 

I’m sure if you explain the scheduling conflict she would be ok. 

Post # 8
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wouldn’t be mad if one of our groomsman had to miss the rehearsal for a good reason (has to work, family emergency, no child care, etc). I would be annoyed if he wanted to skip because he bought concert tickets and was thoughtless about the date. Rehearsals aren’t THAT big of a deal, as long as half of each pair is there it isn’t the end of the world. But it’s the being thoughtless part that would piss me off. A commitment was already in place and then he went and made plans that conflict.

And I would not even ask someone whose wedding I was in to miss for that reason. I’d be embarrassed to ask because I think it’s rude and shows you are putting other things ahead of other commitments you already made.

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