(Closed) Groomsman not attending rehearsal or rehearsal dinner

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

One of my bridesmaids has to miss the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner but I’m really not concerned about it.  She is in law school and has an internship at a law firm this summer.  They refuse to give her any time off so she can’t fly up to IN from Houston until after work on Friday.  Needless to say, she won’t make the Friday evening rehearsal.  But I’d never want her to get fired just to make my rehearsal (and really, it’s not like its that hard to figure out how to walk up an aisle, stand at the front, and walk back out!).

Another bridesmaid has to be on call for my entire reception.  She does consulting and her project is having a go-live the weekend of my wedding.  She almost couldn’t even get permission to be off (luckily they let her) but she is now going to be on call the whole weekend with her laptop handy (except for the ceremony itself).  Again, I’d never want a friend to compromise their job just to be at a wedding function.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Your wedding will be fine. Try not to be annoyed with him for something that probably isn’t his fault. I had to miss my friend’s rehearsal dinner (I was a BM) last yea because I had a very important final at 8am the next day. I picked everything up easily at the wedding. The GM can always asks the other BP members to fill him in, and (assuming he isn’t first), can always follow their lead. It will be fine 🙂

Post # 7
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Newbee

My fiance’s brother, the best man, won’t be able to make our rehearsal or rehearsal dinner because of work.  I was pretty sad at first, but now I’m over it.  No sense in letting something that you can’t really control stress you out!

And I missed a rehearsal last year because of work and easily picked things up the next day.  So I’m sure things will be fine 🙂

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

One of my bridesmaids won’t be able to make it to rehearsal or rehearsal dinner because she lives in another state and is currently attending grad school to be an optometrist. She has a class in the afternoon. It doesn’t bother me as we’ll walk/explain it to her the next morning. It’ll be okay.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

One of our groomsmen will be missing out! He is starting med school in the fall and won’t be able to make it there until the day of the wedding! It’s not a huge deal, because all he really has to do is walk down the aisle! Just have someone run them through the basics of what’s going to happen and you should be fine!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

One of my BM’s isn’t going to attend the rehearsal either.  Her reason is valid, and she hasn’t been an integral part of the process anyway so I’m not concerned about it.  Honestly though, one person missing isn’t so bad to me.  They’ll fall into place without needing much direction. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

Try not to let it bother you too much. It does stink that he won’t be there, but the important thing is, he’ll be there for the most important part, which is the wedding ceremony. Though he won’t be able to celebrate with you beforehand, you guys will have a great time at the ceremony and afterwards. If you don’t make it a big deal, it won’t be!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2006

Happens all the time.  Even people who plan to be there can get caught up in traffic/flight delayed (like one of our groomsmen) or lost on the way to the rehearsal (my bridesmaid, who was also caught in traffic and went right to the rehearsal instead of stopping by the hotel first). Like someone else said, it basically is not difficult to figure out how to stand there!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My groom’s family won’t be at the rehearsal.  We’re doing a destination wedding and their flight gets in late the night before the wedding, after the dinner will have already been over.  I was really upset at first, but I think it will all be OK.  Our coordinator will be there to tell everyone where to stand.

Just take deep breaths.  In the grand scheme of things, it’s not a big deal.

Post # 14
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Our best man had to work

No big deal! It’s not that hard to walk down the aisle if you’re not the bride or groom =]

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

So when I first clicked on this, I read it as the GROOM not being at the rehearsal and was about to be like wtf he’s the groom! lol. 

On what this post is really about lol,  I wouldn’t worry about it.  He may not have enough vacation days or this may be busy season in his industry, or some other logical reason.  You’ll probably be too busy and anxious to worry about it anyway!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think it will be fine, ours is on a thursday night so some of our wedding party may not be able to make it. I think if the maid of honor and best man help fill the others in, then it will be all good! 🙂

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