(Closed) groomsman thrown in jail, missed wedding…what do I say to him?

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

The guy was arrested, it wasn’t like he missed the wedding for something personal against you so I don’t know what you would say. I’m sure he knows he let you down and you can probably tell him that but would it really do any good? 

Post # 4
3166 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

hash it out, let him know what you’re feeling and try to let it go – you want to remember your wedding with great memories, not with angry/sad feelings on how he let you down. so get it out of your system – hear him out, give him hell and move on. :]

Post # 5
3204 posts
Sugar bee

I’d be upset that he missed the wedding, but way more ticked off that he was silly enough to put himself in that situation. I would let him know how disappointed you were by his actions, or lack thereof, but then let it go after that. You’ll always be a bit sad about him missing it, especially when you think back on the day, but you can’t let it sour your relationship. Good luck and sorry that that happened!

Post # 6
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Everyone has personal problems and he didn’t seem like he could fix this one financially… I’m sure if he could, he would’ve.  Cut him some slack, you said “I’m so hurt, I haven’t talked to him in a month” and then followed with “I don’t know how much he is punishing himself for this”… you really need to speak with him if you value the friendship – it sounds like he was an awesome friend for awhile and this is HIS personal business.  He obviously cares and feels badly if he is asking for pictures!  Don’t you think he felt like sh** sitting in jail?  Should his situation gone this far?  Absolutely not, but it didn’t seem like he could take care of it.  If he was a good friend to you for so long, you need to be one also to him right now — I’m sure that was a nightmare for him.

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