(Closed) Groomsman’s date staying with grooms’ party?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If she doesn’t know anyone else, I don’t think she should have to stay in a room by herself or with several girls she doesn’t know.  She and the groomsmen could get their own room if it makes you uncomfortable for her to be staying in a room with your groom.

Post # 4
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761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Unless it is big it seems a little weird she would feel comfortable with this IMO. I would not want to be staying with a bunch of guys that I did not know well and it seems to be kinda rude to your Fiance if he wanted that time to spend with the gm’s.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think she and the groomsman should rent a separate room for the two of them or just her. In my opinion, she should not be staying in that room with the guys.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would maybe suggest that they get their own room then…especially if she only knows her date.  It might be a little bit weird.  Maybe you could have your groom suggest that to his Groomsmen.  

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think they should stay in their own room. That is just asking a bit too much.

Post # 9
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573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I agree! It sounds like you made it clear originally that bridal party members who have their SO coming to stay will be in their own rooms. Not only is it weird for her, but it’s weird for the other groomsmen. Also, I assume the groomsmen are staying with the groom so that they can hang out and be there to take care of things for the wedding.  If someone has a date, they won’t be able to be themselves and will need to make accomodations and entertain her.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

that’s totally weird.  What girl wants to stay in a room with a bunch of guys she doesn’t know.  bizzaro.  the groomsman and his date should get their own separate room.

Post # 11
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

that’s weird. the time before the weddinig is usually spent with lots of male or female bonding, not mixed together. my husband recently went to a wedding where the guys got together before to get ready, and one of the guy’s girlfriend went in their room b/c she needed a place to change. he said it was weird.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

plus, weddings are about the bride and groom. the groom shouldn’t have to spend his time before the wedding worrying about some random girl, he should be having fun with his boys.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think you need to think about your groom.  

Look at it from your perspective.  You dont’ want a boy hanging around while you are doing girl stuff getting ready.  I’m sure your Fiance doesn’t really want a girl hanging around while they are doing boy stuff.  You know how it goes, the conversations are completely different if there is only girls versus mixed parties.  

 

Post # 14
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18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think the groomsman and the Girlfriend should have their own room.  But what is she going to do when the groomsmen are doing manly stuff the morning of?  I really doubt she wants to spend that time around a bunch of guys.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree they need their own room – beyond the fact that it’s weird that she’d want to stay with a bunch of guys – women take longer to get ready. Plus it’s going to be an inconvience for your Fiance to have to make sure he’s dressed appropriately at all times. I’d imagine he’d want to wait till the last second to put on a dress shirt etc so it doesn’t get wrinkled. Plus she’ll be in the way with taking up counter space and blow drying hair etc.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That’s really weird that she would want to do that. I agree that I really think they need to get their own room. I would feel horrible if I was the gf and was interrupting all that guy time and was actually there the morning of the wedding. Those are special memories for the groom and his closest friends and she shouldn’t be getting in the middle of that and possibly making things awkward for the guys. I’d definitely try to have your Fiance talk to the groomsman and ask him if they could please get their own room.

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