(Closed) Groomsmen and dates?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

you need to be honest with both of them. say it is 100 dollars a plate and you cant afford to have the plus 1 and to the girl say you had to cut you list to family and really close friends. the earlier the better

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

OK, first point, why was the groomsman talking to you instead of FI? Anyway, I’m a believer that the rules for dates should be the same for everyone, bridal party included. So if most guests can’t bring a random date, then bridal party can’t either. So Fiance, (preferable to you), needs to tell him that.

Second, why is it so hard for adults to book a room? Aren’t there other hotels in the town? Where I’m from (Australia) I’ve never heard of the bride + groom reserving rooms for their guests. We just assume the guests are adults and know how to book a hotel room. So in your case: groomsman was too slow so needs to book somewhere else – his responsibility, not yours.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well I’m in the camp that all bridal party members should be allowed to bring a date regardless of if they are dating anyone.  Typically, the bridal party puts a lot work into the wedding (planning parties, attending rehearsals, helping with last minute stuff) in addition to doing the couple the honor of standing up with them.  They do more than just a regular guest so it’s considered polite to allow them a +1. 

I think you should let them bring dates if they want.  But if another guest asks about bringing a date, you can just say that you are sorry but are unable to accomodate any +1s.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@PinkAndPearls2013:  OK that makes sense. Sorry if my first reply was a bit strong. But I still think it’s better if your Fiance explains the date situation to the groomsmen since they are his friends.

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