Post # 1
So we’re getting married Saturday, and FI’s brother who was in Germany and unable to make it back for the wedding surprised us today by showing up today. Well he refused to get a tux so he can be with the rest of the groomsmen, so now him and another brother are wearing dress blues, one Army and one Marine. FI will also be in Army dress blues. I’m not very happy with this, and was very pissed earlier, because I wanted all the groomsmen to be the same and we had agreed on tuxes when planning earlier. But Fiance basically told me it’s this way or the highway and well I still want to marry him so I guess I’ll compromise and give in. So now we’re going to have the most colorful wedding possible. Purple bridesmaids dresses, black and purple tuxes, black, navy, and yellow Army dress blues, and black, blue, and red Marine dress blues. Now I just gotta figure out the best way to arrange it so it doesn’t look terribly weird and so they don’t take spotlight away from Fiance. Talk about some major changes for the wedding. In case anyone is wondering, don’t ever surprise a bride by showing up 3 days before the wedding and joining the wedding party then, surprises aren’t fun when everyone knows practically except the bride and groom it just makes for one very upset bride who has to change her plans and dreams.
Post # 3
I think it’s great that they are wearing their dress blues! What a great way to honor them- and I have a feeling your guests and anyone that will see the pictures will think the same thing and not look at the colors. Anyone can wear a tux not everyone has dress blues.
I understand the frustration, but aren’t you more excited that he has an opportunity to be at the wedding?
Post # 4
Yes, I’m very excited and happy that he’s going to be there, I just wish he had preplanned a little better and thought to told me (he told two other brothers and not best man, but not the groom or me and no one else thought to tell me). I don’t think any bride would really appreciate many surprises around the wedding, especially as big as surprises as a new groomsmen and new clothes since tuxes are already rented and ready without being a little frustrated despite the good news.
Post # 5
I definitely understand, I don’t like surprises either. The problem is, he is a guy and I think he genuinely thought it would be nice to surprise you and your fiance. I don’t think he was thinking about the fact that brides are stressed as hell and don’t want surprises that close to the wedding. I do understand that the tuxes are already rented but if the guys that have to pay to not wear them are ok with it, then I don’t see much of a problem other than the color clash.
I know it’s not what you want to hear, but I wanted to be honest. I think maybe it seems worse because of how stressed you are. I genuinely hope everything turns out ok, though!
Post # 6
I can understand how much this is aggravating to you, but being from a military family, you gotta realise that this is a guy thing and beyond that, a military thing. Every friend/family member that I’ve had who’s been in the military when they went to a wedding or got married wore their dress blues.
It’s a tradition thing, and being in the military tradition means a lot. Especially to guys who are in the Army and the Marines.
Just be glad that his brother was able to show up and please, please, please…. don’t take it out on your husband-to-be. He’s probably thrilled that his brother was able to be there.