Post # 1
Traditionally, who pays for the groomsmen attire? I was talking about wedding stuff with my fiance last night and he mentioned that he plans on paying for the grromsmen attire AND still getting them gifts. We have 5 each in our bridal party. He says he has NEVER paid for his own tux rental in any wedding he’s been in . That’s sounds pretty lucky to me, but is that tradition? I guess I never thought much about the groomsmen side of it and just assumed that the bridal party (BM’s and GM’s) pay for their attire, and you thank them with a nice gift. I did NOT included GM’s attire in the budget. MW rentals are anywhere from $99-$200. That could $1000 PLUS gifts for each guy! He can’t seriously think we have that in the budget it. Can he???
What are you and your FH doing? Who’s paying for what?
Post # 2
In the UK, the couple pays if they want something specific (same as with the bridesmaid’s dresses). In our case, when we originally asked our groomsmen to be in our Bridal Party they all owned grey suits, so we just asked that they wear (non-matching) grey suits. Unfortunately about 3 months before the wedding 2 of them told us they didn’t fit into theirs, so, we looked at rentals, and found some we liked for £60. So, we gave them each £60 to hire a suit, or to put towards a suit of their choosing (they opted for the latter).
We wanted matching ties, so we provided those, and they all owned smart shoes and white shirts (that fit) and so wore those.
For us it was a good way to keep costs down. Had we wanted a matching/specific look we would have paid for the entire outfit (be that rental or otherwise).
Post # 3
I think it really depends on the area. My wedding, all the groomsmen paid for their own tux rental. They were $140-175.
Post # 4
I think this is probably another regional difference. In the UK, we often hire morning suits or similar for formal weddings, so the couple will pay for them, same as if you’ve chosen something for the bridesmaid to wear. It was around £700 for 6 suits from Moss Bros for a 3 piece suit and shirt, our gifts for groomsmen were cufflinks (and stripy socks).
Post # 5
My Fiance has always had to pay for his own tux/suit rental. For our wedding the groomsmen aren’t wearing suits (beach wedding) but we are having them wear specific shirts and pants. We’re planning on buying one of them (either the shirt or pants) for all the guys. Then they’d be responsible for the other piece. But we’re just doing that to be nice, not because we feel we have to.
I don’t know where you live but maybe your Fiance has just been very lucky and had very generous friends? Have you told him you don’t think that’s in the budget?
Post # 6
Yes, I told him I did not budget that cost. Since I only assumed that if my BM’s had to pay for their dresses, his GM’s had to cover their rental. He told me he’d just cover it himself. I tried to explain that him covering it vs us covering it didn’t change the overall cost. I told him I want us both to sit down and go over the budget it detail tonight so we have expectations of cost for everything, and that even if we can “afford” it, I don’t want us just trowing money at everything. I want us to be responsible with the wedding and the budget.
Post # 7
Where we live/in our circle of friends, it’s the norm for groomsmen to pay for their own. But if he’s really never had to pay for his own in the past, then it seems only fair that he’d pay for them for his Groomsmen (especially if some of the Groomsmen are guys who paid for his tux in their own weddings in the past).
Post # 8
The Groomsmen should pay for their rental. You are correct. Your Bridesmaid or Best Man will spend a lot more than his Groomsmen. When you say yes to participating in a wedding, you are assuming those costs. If you can’t pay it, then you should politely decline the role. Then, if the bride and groom know that is a reason, and it’s important to them, they can offer to cover for that one person.
I believe most wedding sites will tell you Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen pay for their own attire.
Post # 9
Only 1 of his 5 Groomsmen is married. He was in that GM’s wedding and the groom’s parents covered the tuxes for all 8 GM!! I wish we had the money to do that, but considering that the Groomsmen in question and his bride didn’t pay for their wedding at all (parents covered it) he would understand our financial struggle with those extra costs.
I guess it’s worth adding that my FH and I are paying for the wedding ourselves. My dad was kind enough to pay for my dress.
Post # 10
Our Groomsmen will be paying themselves. Fiance has always paid for his own in weddings he’s been in. That being said, we are going to pick out a reasonably priced one, and if we had a guy that were in financal troubles, we would step in and pay for that guy’s tux.
Post # 11
We paid for both the bridesmaid dresses and groomsmen tux rentals. We figured since we were choosing their attire, that we should pay. We did not pay for accessories or alterations. If you do not pay, then you need to discuss budgets with your bridal party so you do not force them to purchase something they cannot afford. We also got nice gifts for all our immediate family members and bridal party members, as a thank-you for their support of our relationship.
Post # 12
We live in the US and men usually pay for themselves. Fiancé is an a wedding coming up and the mother of the groom is paying, which we are extrememly grateful for (she also makes about 300k a year), but otherwise he’s always paid for his own.
Post # 13
I have a feeling that every wedding my FH has been in has been paid fro by the parents. Hence, why he’s never had to pay. We’re gonna have a come to jesus talk regarding the budget tonight, and see if we can come up with some ways to save his Groomsmen some money. (i.e. do they already own any suits? what colors? etc)
Post # 14
Don’t know what’s tradition or not but we’ll be purchasing the groomsmens’ attire for them.
It’s part of my FI’s gift to them for standing up with him.
Post # 15
I think it’s traditional in the US for the groomsmen to pay for their own attire, and for the couple not to abuse this by choosing something reasonably priced. As far as my personal experience, my coworker told me that he was leaning towards having his groomsmen BUY a suit (“It’s like $400, so that’s only $200 more than renting a tux, and then they get to keep it!”), while my parents paid for the tux rentals for my brother’s groomsmen–they were all either in or just out of college, and my mom felt bad about making them pay for it. Also, a lot of places do promos, where with a certain number of rentals, the groom’s tux is free, which seems a bit unfair to the groomsmen, IMO.
ETA: My Fiance (and our parents, and heck, me) were all about paying for various things until we sat down and looked at the total budget and saw that it just wasn’t there, unfortunately. Something can be a nice gesture or a great value and still not be in the budget.