Post # 1
A few weeks ago Fiance nest friend, one of our groomsmen was electrecuted at work. He miraculously survived and on his way to recovery. We dont know if he will make our 10/9/11 wedding at this point. He is beginning skin graphs this week and nderwent surgery where he lost toes and bone on bth feet. We do not care what he looks like, if he is in a wheelchair as long as he is there!!
However there is no guarantee he will be able to even go to the wedding. The tux rentals place said we have until 1 week before the wedding to get someone fitted and have a tux on time. What should we do? Fiance doesnt have many friends, anyone remotely close is in our tiny wedding party already. Its a small wedding, 60 guests, our bridal party is our 3 kids, my sister and brother, my SIL and childhood best friend(4 couples)
Any suggestions on what to do if we cant find a replacement or if the best friend can’t make the wedding?
Any sggestions welcome!!
Post # 3
If he gets a tux or not, who cares? If he feels well enough to be in your wedding, I say let him wear a nice suit instead (or even a polo and khakis – who cares? As long as he’s there!). I’d tell him that you are holding a spot open for him no matter what! I hope he gets better soon! I had a friend get electrocuted (he worked on power lines for a living) and it was a really scary time.
Post # 4
A tux might be really uncomfortable for him as well depending on how much he’s healed by then. He might need to wear something really light weight and comfortable.
Post # 5
i wouldn’t replace him – the bridal party sides can be uneven, no one will care at all, i promise. i hope all goes well and he is able to attend, tux or not!
Post # 6
I say dont find a replacement. Threre is no rule that says that the sides need to be even. Aside from that who cares if he misses the tux deadline. He can wear black pants and as shirt. Honestly after going through all that if he does make it to your wedding you guys should just be thankful that he is there and not care if he shows up in sweat pants. Hope all is well with your friend and his family!!
Post # 7
I say, wait to see if the best man can make the wedding, but I wouldn’t find a “replacement”. Obviously that is who your Fiance wanted to stand next to him, and if he can’t make it I’m sure he will be there in spirit. Everyone will understand if there is no best man..he obviously has a good reason not to be there if he can’t make it! Lots of brides on here have uneven wedding parties. Two girls will just need to walk with one of the guys, but that’s fine. Crossing my fingers he gets better quickly and can come to your wedding..but if not the wedding will still work out fine..no replacement required!
Post # 8
I can understand the concern. He may not be well enough at that time to attend let alone stand up there with you. I would wait a few weeks and see how he is doing. We had to replace a groomsman 2 weeks before hte wedding and it can be stressful, but since you have a little time I would wait and talk to him about 2 weeks before the wedding.
Post # 9
First off- thank goodness he is alive! That is such a blessing!
I think that you and your Fiance should stay open to possibilities and flexible about whether he feels up to attending. Plan some contingencies-for example a. if he can attend but needs accessible seating and entry/exit b. if he can’t attend but you want to include him in a special way via sktpe of a pre recorded message c. if he can attend or participate – and the wait until a few weeks before the wedding to make a final decision with your Fiance and the best man.
Post # 10
@mrstobeeisme: I would not replace him…. find some way to make his presence felt if he cant make it.
Post # 11
Thanks ladies….I dont want to replace him!! Told Fiance at reception we can have my sis introduced with my brother and his wife. He isn’t our best man, our 2 sons are, but only because we have boys, other wise he would have been! I dont care about the tux, he can wear sweats as faras Im concerned!!! I just dont want him to feel an y pressure to be there if he isnt feeling up to it. As for the suit, I told Fiance same thing, he can wear a suithe owns as well. Im wheelchair bound so I told him not to worry, that I will have company on wheels….lol.
The majot damage was to his face, hands and feet. As for being part of the wedding party, Im thinking of letting him decide, I dont want him to feel seld conscious or uncomfortable about taking pictures and stuff since he burned his nose, mouth and chin badly.
Im just so happy he is ok!! He gave us such a scare, I couldnt even think about planning a wedding the 2 weeks he was in a coma.