(Closed) Groomsmen dropped out but mom's the issue here.

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Sorry you’re going through this – sorry for your FI! 

Show her pictures of uneven bridal parties??

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ugh, that would totally annoy me too! I also think it’s a good suggestion to show her pictures of uneven bridal parties. Maybe tell her you don’t like the traditional photos where everyone in the bridal party is just standing in a straight line, and that’s really the only pics where you’ll notice anything. And if she starts talking about when they walk down the aisle, you can have the girls come down alone with the guys already up front, or one guy will have two girls, it’s no big deal (although it sounds like you already know that.)

Look up uneven bridal party on Pinterest – there’s a ton of pictures there!

And if your mom thinks it’s ‘proper’ to have even sides and that’s what her deal is, here’s some advice/etiqueete things telling her you are correct that it’s fine: 

http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-questions/picking-bridal-party/qa/can-wedding-party-be-asymmetrical.aspx?MsdVisit=1

http://www.glamour.com/weddings/blogs/save-the-date/2010/04/good-news-having-an-uneven-wed.html

 

 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@MrsWBS:  

Well tell her that since its YOUR wedding you are choosing to not pick someone for him and also that since she feels so strongly about it being yours that she cant make that decision, either. Because your choice for YOUR wedding is to let him pick his own party.

Luckily I have a VERY nonchalant mother and an understanding Mother-In-Law to be.. I havent had this issue (hope to not be speaking too soon).

You also need to let her know that you dont need the unneccessary stress that she is putting on you and neither does he. And if she keeps harping on it, ignore it. I know thats one of THE hardest things to do, but if she isnt going to cave.. its the only answer OTHER than doing what she wants you to. Let her know that you appreciate all she’s done/doing and that you are glad she wants everything to look amazing, but one person isnt going to make or break the photos. And you dont want someone you’re not close to in your wedding regardless if they’re family or not.

And again, tell her that this is your wedding and your choice. She can choose to accept it or not, but youre not going to make him have someone in his party that he doesnt want there. 🙂

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@MrsWBS:  Wow – that’s crazy!  Sorry she’s being such a nutcase.  Can you just put your foot down and tell her that your Fiance is very hurt over the whole groomsmen dropping out issue and that you’re NOT going to make it worse no matter what?  Are you in a position to say that you’ll pay for the photographer rather than let her dictate the matter?

Good luck with it all.  I’m sure the actual wedding will be wonderful and full of love!

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