(Closed) Groomsmen Have Drama TOO!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

OK, afte reading it several times I came to some conclusions

A. The whole relationship between this girl/FI’s brother/Best Friend thing, STAY OUT OF THAT MESS! Believe me, it will only get worse. Don’t gossip about it, don’t do anything. I know you are all friends but believe me when I say it will only end badly.

B. Do not, under any circumstances, worry about this girl, the fact that she is living with her dad and supposably mooching is none of your business. Her behavior is showing that she may not even stay around long.

C. I am not saying this girl was right,she did some wrong. The whole thing about trying to get you to dump your FI is awful. I am glad that your FI and you have better common sense. These type of girls can be called a “wrecker” and an “instigator” the less contact you have with her, the better. If you keep fighting with her boyfriend then it is possible that you can be under attack and he will cling to her more.

D. Now about the wedding, which is your business, if he does go and he brings her then you will be unhappy, if he doesn’t go then your fiance will be unhappy. What should happen? About the tux, the Best Friend is being iffy about that. I really think that these matters should be between your FI and him. If he actually cannot pay for the tux, then her has a choice. Either not be in it, or try to find some help. If you do talk to the potential GM, try to confront him in a tactful way because from what you say, this girl could be an instigator.

Post # 5
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Your FI has a hard choice! It is either put the Best friend in the wedding and be happy BUT if he does, then since his brother will be there, it will be so uncomfortable. Although it is his ultmately his choice, you are going to have to soothe him after his choice. However, if he does invite the friend all you can say is, “Look this is our wedding. If there is a single alteration, anything then I will be upset.” If this friend and the girl comes (which personally I see it in bad taste that she would due to her history) then there has to be a way for them to sit away from the family. Like they say, out of sight, out of mind.

The reason why I said to stay out of it isn’t just for your sake, but think about it, this girl seems to be like an instigator and I have a funny feeling that she would somehow tie you into an ugly situation.

Post # 6
2288 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think casteel covered it well stay out that mess. I would have FI  have a serious talk about wheter he can afford to be BM.

Sounds like you have a situation but dont lose focus your wedding and marriage is more important than some flighty girl.


Good Luck!

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