(Closed) Groomsmen might be paralised

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 4
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Firstly, I am so very sorry to hear about this. I can’t imagine what it’s like for your friend and for those around him. I think it is important for him to have the support of his friends and family around him as much as possible, whether it be via visitations, sending flowers and messages, phone calls etc (as long as he is comfortable with that, of course).

I think above all it’s important to remain positive and encourage him to do the same. He may have to prepare for a big life change, but the fact is that he is alive and has people who care about him around him. Stay positive and hopeful. Sometimes people see unbelievable improvements with their injuries, and I genuinely think remaining as positive and in good spirits as possible helps that. Even with a bad prognosis, it can make the difference between succumbing to debilitating depression and lack of acceptance of what has happened and a very optimistic outlook on life that’s inspired by seeing the many things that they previously took for granted, if that makes sense. And please don’t feel guilt. No one can predict these things. It can happen any time, anywhere. The important thing is supporting each other at these times, just like what you’re doing now.

I truly wish your friend the very best.


Post # 6
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

First off, this is no one’s fault, especially not yours.  Sure you made a suggestion but he could have gotten hurt anywhere.  He will also feel bad if you’re sitting there blaming yourself.  

As for how you can help–being in hospital is BORING BORING BORING.  Pack up a care package with movies, a portable DVD player if there isn’t a DVD player in his room, books, magazines, crossword puzzles and that sort of thing.  Bring him his laptop if he has one and try to find one to loan him if he does not.  Ask him if he’d be interested in learning to knit or crochet–that shit can keep you super busy and plus you get to make something.  Also needles and yarn are relatively cheap and patterns are available online for free.  Call him as often as you can and just say hi and chat about stuff when you can’t get away to visit.

As for his injuries–L2 is low on the spinal cord so that is very good as far as spinal injuries go.  If the broken L2 is the extent of his spinal injuries, he will very likely regain some feeling below his knees and will probably be able to walk eventually.  He may need assistance from crutches or a cane but barring any other issues, he will probably not be wheelchair bound.  I hope he heals up fast!

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