Post # 1
My fiance’s best man just got back from over seas and we were discussing the wedding. I respect him and am greatful for what he’s done and is doing for our country. I have mixed feelings in regards to him being in uniform on the day of.. My Fiance doesn’t see an issue with it, as his father was in the military.. Groomsmen said that it would be fine if he didn’t wear his uniform as he understands that it’s our day and hes heard that sometimes the focus can be a bit of a change. I’ve never seen a Groomsmen in uniform, only the husband in uniform in wedding photos.. so I see it to be a little strange. Without sounding bad, I dont want the focus to not be on us.. and to be on him b/c of the uniform. So I dont know what to do. We also have a guest who wants to wear his military uniform when he comes as a respect to my Fiance father, who is no longer with us.. I dont have an issue as much with this as the other, mostly b/c he won’t be in photos or standing up..AND he doesnt like to dress up so its one way to ensure he doesn’t wear jeans. haha.
Do any of you ladies have opinions or expierence with this?
Post # 3
I think its ok to tell him you want him in a regular suit/tux to match everyone else – especially if he doesnt mind ya know? I actually wanted my brother to wear his blues (though he wasn’t in the wedding party) and he refused haha. He didn’t want the attention.
Post # 4
We had a similar issue with the Best Man. He serves in the military as well as Fiance and I was conflicted. Of course, if Fiance wears his uniform so does the Best Man so I was torn. Both of Fiance and Best Man will be wearing a uniform and I’m fine with that 🙂
I think that the uniform, while it will draw attention, is fine. However, if he is fine with not wearing it and its not an official uniformed event, then I would just ask him to wear a suit/tux.
Post # 5
My Fiance Best man wanted to wear his dress blues.. I didn’t even have to say anything when everyone else piped up and said no way. My Fiance said he thinks it would be best if he just wore a tux and told him this. I would totally be fine with it if Fiance was wearing a uniform too, but he isn’t in anything so he doesn’t have anything.
Post # 7
Maybe you’ve already made up your mind, but my Darling Husband and two of his groomsmen were in uniform and it certainly didn’t take the focus off me. That’s right, not me and Darling Husband, but me. People are going to be staring at the bride, it’s a wedding. I did joke that the Marine officer in his dress blues would take away from me, but that’s all it was, a joke. People barely notice uniforms up there, seriously.
Post # 8
I would say no. If it were the GROOM, then by all means.
Post # 9
I’m not worried about the spotlight being off me. I’m more worried of it throwing things off balance and people focusing on a guy in uniform rather than the marriage that’s all. I dont need the spot light.. I would like the spotlight to be on me and my fiance.
Post # 10
I have seen it where the Groomsmen is the only one in uniform, but if you are feeling awkward about it, and he is saying that a tux is no prob, then go with it! Hell, Fiance won’t even wear his uniform in the wedding! He also told his GM’s that are military, no uniforms! Fiance told me this “would you want to wear your work clothes to the wedding? ” Good point! So just tell him everyone is doing tuxes, and who knows, he might even breathe a sigh of relief!
Post # 11
I would think that if all the other guys are wearing matching suits then it would look unbalanced. He has offered that he doesn’t NEED to wear the uniform, so I would take him up on that offer. Obviously, it matters to you and you should be happy!
Post # 12
I’m having both my Fi and his groomsman in their uniforms, I kind of liked of them in uniform but that’s me. What branch is he with? because some of the branchs dress uniforms looks like suits with ribbons on them. but if u don’t like then you don’t like it’s ur wedding and if u don’t like the way it looks then have him dress the same.
Post # 13
It would drive me nuts to spend so much time making sure everything matches and looks good and then have one person wear something completely different. But maybe that is just me being OCD! I would def ask him to wear the suit/tux.
Post # 14
There’s no reason he needs to wear his uniform, especially since he said he’d be okay with not wearing it. We just had our wedding last week and 3 of the 5 were in the military, they all wore tuxes. =] Go with whatever makes you feel more comfortable!