- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
I have 3 bridesmaids: my two highschool friends and my future sister in-law. My own sisters aren’t going to be BMs. I am opting not to have a Matron of Honor(BMs married) because neither are my best friends, or anything. My SIL is 14…so right on the edge of Jr Bridesmaid or Best Man age, but I am having her as a regular Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Anyways, my fiance has his brother(2 yrs younger) as Best Man. He also has his little brother(who is 11 yrs old) as a Jr Groomsmen. Well, we had planned for one more of his friends to be a Groomsmen. However, my fiance is very shy and not that sociable, so he didn’t call to ask them. He sent one of his friends a card asking him to be a Groomsmen. Never heard an answer/response back to him. Then he asked his other friend/roommate in college(just last yr) to be his Groomsmen…through a text message. Also, no response:( I’m thinking the first guy he asked is another wedding around that time…so it’s understandable he doesn’t want to do it. The roommate though, I’m not sure why he doesn’t want to do it…..perhaps if he explained it was going to be a smaller wedding and the only obligation is attending/standing in the wedding he would want to do it. Both guys that he asked were always real supportive of us as a couple, which is nice because my Fiance family wasn’t that supportive awhile back. I think it’s sad thatfiance is so shy/has anxiety he can’t even call someone to ask/talk to him.
Well anyways, we are now thinking he will just have his brothers, the best man and jr groomsmen….and my 3 BMs. But fiance’s family has been trying to push him to ask his *uncle* to be a Groomsmen. Well fiance is kind of worried that it would seem odd and that he doesn’t have any friends. Plus, he doesnt want his uncle doing it simply out of obligation…he doesn’t believe what his family says(that the uncle will be honored). THe uncle is much older…..in his late 30s or early 40s. He once again doesnt feel comfortable asking him, it’s like he wants his parents to ask him for him. We’re also tempted to ask the roommate one more time to make sure whether or not he wants to do it. Fiance was tempted to ask one other guy to be his Groomsmen,but he’s not evenreally good friends with him…he’s his Brother’s good friend, and I just think that would be kind of awkward for both of us. Do you think we should ask his uncle to be his GM? Should we just use his brother as Best Man, and lil bro as Jr GM? Should we ask his oldroommate one more time or just let it be(the no response).