(Closed) GroomsWOMAN: what is your opinion?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Do you like the idea of having a groomswoman?
    Yes : (101 votes)
    80 %
    No : (26 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Well my brother is my man of honor, so obviously I have no problem with mixing up the traditional genders. I figure you should have whoever is most important in your life stand up with you, regardless of gender.

    Post # 4
    257 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I went to a wedding where they had both a man of honour (bride’s brother) and a best woman (groom’s best friend).

    It’s not about having a girls side and a boys side, it’s about having the people you are closest to stand up with you and support you into your marriage.  Why shouldn’t he have a groomswoman?!

    I don’t know what I’d say to the BMs, honestly I’d probably go all feminist-y on them.

    Post # 5
    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I have a brides-dude, and although he’s standing on my FI’s side (we only have 2 each so it’d be super awkward to have 3 and 1- my Fiance was afraid it’d look like he didn’t have friends), he’s still being listed everywhere as brides-dude and he’s coming to all the girly events. I say go for it. I also think it’s extremely insulting to you, your Fiance, and your grooms-woman for anyone to insinuate that she is angling to sleep with your Fiance.

    Post # 6
    284 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My fiance’s “best man” is his best girl friend. 🙂 I think it’s an awesome idea!

    Post # 7
    2050 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @BeignetBride:  My husband had a good female friend that stood on his side. In that case, I asked my closest brother to stand on my side. As you can see, she wore an elegant dress and colorful corsage in orange/gold, my husband’s colors, and my brother wore a purple tie to match the colors on my side. I’ll write you a private message in a bit. 🙂

    Post # 8
    11268 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    it’s not about boys vs girls.  it’s all about having the people who mean the most to you stand up and support you.

    i think it’s a great idea.

    i had my son as my man of honour and my dh had his sister as his best woman.  those are our closest family/friends.

    Post # 9
    1202 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    reading your post in the beginning, not once did i think what your Bridesmaid or Best Man thought. It’s your wedding. You do what makes you happy and comfortable. I have no idea why your Bridesmaid or Best Man would think that. I like the idea. I’m not having any Bridesmaid or Best Man in my wedding and my best friend lives out of state. I was actually thinking about making my best guy friend my Maid/Matron of Honor. lol. I say go for it!

    Post # 10
    479 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My husband had his best friend (female) in our wedding and I loved it. She did a tux and the same color tie as him and the other groomsmen. Come to think of it she was his best woman. I say go for it

    Post # 11
    1975 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    if you and your Fiance and obviously the groomswomen dont have a problem with it, it is no problem. Why complicate things with everyone elses opinion

    Post # 13
    1715 posts
    Bumble bee

    Frankly, I’d tell your Bridesmaid or Best Man to get over it and you’re really surprised at the horrible insinuations that your Husband would cheat on you and much less with his life long friend. 

    sorry, I’m highly pissed off for you. I would have cut anyone out who said anything like that about one of SO’s girl friends. I love the few girl friends he has.

    And I kind of now want one of my BM’s to be SO’s groomswoman =)

    I can see one in particular in a pretty little black dress and a tie to match his and maybe even a fedora…..

    Post # 14
    3667 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I love the idea, and your friend is WAY out of line.

    Post # 15
    3638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    that it insinuated that this girl was going to “sleep with your fiance”

    …wait, what?!?! I’m really sorry if this offends you but, are you sure this person is a true friend? (The Bridesmaid or Best Man, not the groomswoman). This comment simply disgusts me. What close mindedness. I can’t even…BLAH! 


    (sorry but this has made me really cranky)

    Post # 16
    2359 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Wow!  That is actually such an uneducated, disrespectful, careless unthoughtful, comment from your BMs, not to mention idiotic among other words too.   

    My Fiance is having one of his best female friends stand up with him and not one person cares or made a comment!  


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