(Closed) GroomsWOMAN: what is your opinion?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Do you like the idea of having a groomswoman?



  • Post # 32
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It is 100% ok to have her as a groomswoman. I went to a wedding that had 6 bridesmaid, 3 groomsmen, and 3 groomswomen. Like you describe, the groomswomen wore the bridesmaid’s dress, but in black with a sash to match the groomsmens’ ties. It was gorgeous and not weird. Your friend is WAY out of line to suggest that this woman is going to try to sleep with your Fiance just because they are good friends!

    Post # 33
    872 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I was one just recently.  No one cared.  In fact, I think the bride suggested it – she was not jealous at all and the groom had a crush on me years ago!

    Only issue was figuring out processional/recessional stuff.  

    I’d never do it at my wedding, mind you – I am way too traditional, but it didn’t strike me as strange enough that I wouldn’t participate.

    Post # 34
    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I had two bridesmen, both siblings in my case. I think the comments here pretty well spell out that it’s a-ok.

    Post # 35
    3551 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    My best friend is male, and I plan on having him as my best man, they only hard part about it is that he moved to Switzerland a few weeks ago (my drinking buddy is sooo far away :() My SO and I plan on having a small wedding party with a guy and a girl on each side. His groomswoman is going to be one of his closest friends. We plan on each side walking down together as a couple

    Post # 36
    1064 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I had a brides woman. I was so happy that she could be there for my husband. It looked totally fine also. I put up recaps. 

    Post # 37
    665 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think its a personal preference, I think it’s ok for a brides man but not grooms woman, I know its a double standard but something in me just says thats how it is. I’m glad that you have so much support from the bees, tell your bridesmaids they can have it their way on their day!

    Post # 38
    4951 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I wouldn’t do it, but I’m weird about everything matching. I don’t see anything wrong with other people having bridesmen and groomswomen in their wedding parties at all. I’ve never personally seen it done, and I’d love to see pictures! 

    Post # 39
    678 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We got married on August 4, and my husband’s attendant was a groomswoman.  I absolutely love her, she’s adorable and was there for my husband the whole day.  I knew he was in good hands while I was getting ready with my girls 🙂

    Post # 40
    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @future mrs Q:  My brother is my man of honor too. I see nothing wrong with it–my fiance wanted his brother as his best man, and my brother has always been there for me, so I wanted him by my side. Honestly, OP, it isn’t your BM’s wedding, it’s yours. Just because there is a member of the opposite sex in the groom’s or bride’s side does not  mean it is sexual.

    I think some people have trouble getting past the gender barriers, but times have changed. You sound like you ultimately trust your Fiance, so unless this woman is shamelessly hitting on him or something, I say more power to you guys for having her as a grooms woman!

    Post # 41
    745 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    My fiance has only groomswomen (his best friend, and his sister), and I’ll only have bridesmen (my brother and my cousin). 

    My thing is, the people standig up with us should be the people we love, and who are closest to us. If they happen to be women for the groom, and/or men for the bride, why would there be any sort of issue at all? 

    If that were my friend, I’d tell her to stop being a crazy woman. I’d also tell her that she doesn’t know the people involved, so she should just zip it. 

    Post # 42
    652 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    First of all, it makes me so happy to read everyone’s responses – they remind me of why I love the Bee so much.

    Secondly, we are having a best lady in our wedding too as she’s my SO’s best friend from high school, and it was really important to us to have the people who were important in our lives stand by us, regardless of sex/gender. I’m so excited that she said yes – my only wish is that I could split her in half since we’ve become pretty good friends over the past 8 years too 😛

    Post # 43
    1789 posts
    Buzzing bee

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    @Cornflakegirl:  That photo looks beautiful!


    That Bridesmaid or Best Man comment pissed me off, I kinda want to smack my laptop moniter now. Sorry, if I stood on the guys side of a wedding I wouldnt wanna sleep with em all, pretty sure I could contain myself.

    Post # 44
    202 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I love the idea!  My Fiance is having a friend on his side that is a woman, which we are lovingly going to refer to her as his “Groomsbroad.”  She is awesome.  Dont worry about what your BM’s think,  people are always going to have opinions.  Its your wedding not their wedding! Haters gonna hate 😉

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