Post # 1
I’m new to the boards but have been reading the blog for awhile. A male friend asked me to be in his wedding party as a groomswoman. I of course accepted but when I asked him what I have to do he was not really sure. It’s kind of a destination wedding and I am not sure if there will be a bachelor party or if it is somethign I would want to participate in. He told me I was the first person he asked (I know his brother is his bestman) and kind of mentioned who else will be involved but they are college friends of his I don’t really know. He also told me I would wear the same dress as the BMs once his Fiance decides what it is and she has not yet. This was around August. We are now 6 months out and I don’t really know anything more.
So, has anyone stood up for a male friend? What did you do and what did you skip? I grew up with the groom and he met his Fiance in college so we are not very close but we have spent a week together on vacation recently so we have a relationship to some extent. Should I expect to get ready with the bride? Groom? Participate in hosting the shower? Should I help organize a bachelor party? I feel like I am overthinking this, I just want to be a supportive for my friend.
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My SOs sister is being a groomswoman for him. She’s going to get a tux just like his guys. We’re less than 2 months out and my girls still don’t have dresses.
If your friend is less conventional and doesn’t want the full out bachelor party experience then maybe you can be involved in that. I would say that otherwise, just spring for a bottle of champagne or something and wish him a good night out with his guys.
We’re doing a bridesman too, haha. My brother. He will dress like the guys and stand up for me at the wedding. Guys just don’t help that much TBH. Maybe run some errands week of. They get a sweet deal.
As far as primping goes, ask the bride if they’re going to do their hair and makeup somewhere or if someone is coming to them. If you want to get ready on your own, offer to wrangle the guys and just keep an eye on him in the morning and see that he gets to the ceremony on time.
Post # 5
We’re having a groomsmaid and bridesmen… our groomsmaid is wearing a dress in the same silhouette as the bridesmaids, but in a complementary color. She will be getting ready with me (the bride) and will be choosing whether to attend the bachelor or bachelorette parties. You could probably plan a bachelor party that doesn’t make you uncomfortable, though. Dinner and drinks, for example. You could ask for the bridesmaids’ contact info and see about hosting a Jack and Jill shower.
One of the best parts of having the gender-bending wedding parties is that there isn’t a defined role!