- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I started planning our wedding thinking mostly of us and what exactly we wanted. As we went along and I realized that it’s not just about us and that I want our guests to have a great time as well (partially thanks to the bee for changing my mind!). Unfortunately Fiance has not yet had this change in heart. I’m really frustrated right now because whenever I make a suggestion that deals with someone else’s comfort he just goes “well, it’s not their wedding.”
-I would like to not have a head table. I would like to have our Bridal Party sit with their SOs so I’ve been trying to find a way to make this work. He shoots down every idea by telling me some variation of “it’s our day, not theirs.” He thinks that because he had to sit with people he didn’t know when I was in the Bridal Party that others should have to as well.
-I am looking at Father-Daughter dances and he told me to pick a country song as I like country. My dad hates country so I was planning on avoiding it. Fiance got upset and said “it’s not his wedding. I’m sure he got to pick his own song for his wedding.” This upset me because I want to have a song that is special to my dad and I, I don’t want to dance to something that he won’t like.
It’s kind of frustrating but at the same time funny. Usually you hear about bridezillas, but I feel like I’m the one who is calm about everything so far and he’s being a bit of a groomzilla. Anyone have any ideas about what I can say to him so that he understands that I want our guests to enjoy the day as well? I already tried explaining to him why I feel this way but perhaps he needs to lurk around the bee a bit!