Post # 1
Today I impulsively tried on a wedding dress with 2 of my bridesmaids. It. Was. Perfect. The most beautiful trumpet dress with just the amount of lace and beading, with a keyhole back. It was 50% off because the buttons on the keyhole closure were missing. This is seriously a once in a lifetime opportunity! Because our wedding date is so soon, I know I would never have time or funds enough to order anything from this boutique in town, but because this one is selling straight off the rack, I can. As soon as I walked out of the dressing room, we all were in tears. I had them put the dress on hold, and called my mom to tell her about it so we could stop by tomorrow in between other shops. She goes into this very rude monologue about how she is NOT buying a dress tomorrow and it’s stupid to even look at it. (Backstory: she hates my fiance, and is not excited about me getting married at all. She is the ultimate wet blanket.)
I’ve decided that if she acts that way at the first shop, I’ll tell her I’d rather enjoy this day with people that are happy for me and will support me in my decision and she can go be grouchy around people not in wedding dresses. I want to give her an opportunity to get excited, and maybe seeing me in a dress will spark that. I’ve vented to my bridesmaids and fiance, but I just wanted to share with the Bees!
Post # 3
Ugh…I’m sorry! Wet blankets are no fun. On the bright side–did you take any pics of the dress so we can all gush about how pretty it is? 😀
Post # 4
I think its awesome! and I love your stragedy with her. If she is just gonna be a downer, explain that you would rather this be a happy occasion! awesome:) I hope she does get excited while shopping tomorrow. But I’m proud of you for standing your ground!
and yes, i’mwith misshoneybun… where is the pic of it:)
Post # 5
That sucks that your mom isn’t happy for you. I agree that if she’s ruining the experience for her you should tell her she can leave.
Just make sure you tell your future bridal consultants that they’re now playing “beat the dress”.
Post # 6
Ugh I worry my mother is going to be like this too. I think your strategy is a good one and I would say to just give yourself a mental monologue of “She will not ruin my dress, she will not ruin my dress.” I’m sorry she is being like this. Can you maybe find something that is of interest and allocate that activity to her?
Post # 7
Just think about the other positive girls and ladies around you. They all support you, are happy for you, and want to be there for you in a good way. That should keep ya grounded should your mum act all grumpy
Post # 8
My friend took pics, I’ll get some from her! Thanks, ladies!