Post # 1
Usually when my close friends and I go out to eat, we split the check according to who ate what. It can be a little annoying to do the math, especially when we get 8-10 people together, but generally no one gets upset, since we’re all paying the ‘fair’ amount.
The other night I went to a dinner with a different group of people. There were only five of us, but the group insisted on splitting the check equally. They had ordered expensive apps and entrÃ©es as well as a few bottles of wine and I ended up paying about double what I should have owed. I tried to suggest a pay-what-you-owe approach but was quickly outvoted and it got awkward…so I decided to shut up and pay up.
I’m wondering if any of you guys have been in similar situations and good ways to handle them. It’s easier with one or two other people, but it’s so hard with a group! Tonight, I’m going to dinner with a group of coworkers at a pretty fancy place, and I’m sure there’ll be a ton of drinking/spending $$$$. This is a goodbye dinner for a favorite coworker of mine who left the firm today, so I wanted to be there, but the place is way more expensive than I would have liked or usually go to. I really don’t want to shell out $100+ to subsidize everyone else’s meal, but I don’t want to be rude or look cheap. What would you guys do?
Post # 3
I would just go up to the waiter/waitress and ask for a seperate bill for my meal and drinks. But, i agree usually when we go out witha group of friends we will either split the bll or each throw in a $20 and that will cover it.
Post # 4
Easy peasy. Go up to the waitperson when you enter and tell them that you want a separate bill. It used to irk me because I don’t drink and I don’t eat a lot. After I’d been stuck paying $100 for a $17.99 dinner and tip which I thought would be at most $30, I vowed never again. It hasn’t happened to me in a long while though because my friends and I usually order in the same range ~$15. If the bill comes out to much more than I’m willing to pay, I just say “Well, I’m not paying $50 when my meal was only $20 and I didn’t drink, sorry. I don’t have the $$ for it that’s why I ordered accordingly” But honestly, your own separate bill is the answer.
Post # 5
It depends on who is in the group. We have a person that likes to calculate the bill individually, we usually let him do it. If he is not there, we split evenly.
Post # 6
I prefer to get separate checks, or everyone pay for what you eat for that very reason. We occasionally go out with my sister, bil and his sister and husband and the sister and husband always insist on just dividing it by the number of people and it drives me insane. Next time, I would just ask the waitstaff for a separate check.
Post # 7
My friends have always done a “pay only what you owe” type of thing. We always have to make sure people pay tips.
If you go out with that same group of friends again, make sure you ask the waitress for your own bill. You could go up to the counter & request that. If you ask from your table & someone says something, just say you need a copy of the bill for balancing your checkbook or taxes or something.
Post # 8
With our friends we just split the check down the middle. Usually if someone eats or drinks more they add in extra but thats it.
Post # 9
In my circle of friends, we generally just split the bill evenly between all of us, but we usually share appetizers and we all drink. Especially when the cost is almost even between people, I find it rather annoying to end dinner with pens and calculators, getting it all right down to the very penny.
However, if I found myself in this situation a lot and felt like it worked out unfairly, I’d make sure to have cash. I think the easiest way is to always make sure that you have cash that you can put toward your bill and say “here’s my portion.”
Post # 10
We always split equally, but we also all get equal amounts of drinks/split appetizers, etc. I did the “pay what you owe” thing in grad school, but now that all of us make good money and splurge roughly equally, it’s nice to not have to deal with the math and always having people give a couple bucks less than they owe.
Post # 11
We always do separate checks. Yes it’s sort of a pain for the server but that way I don’t have to worry about carrying cash and pay for what I eat.
Post # 12
We usually request separate checks from the waitstaff right off the bat to avoid the awkwardness. This is either by single person or by couple, depending on the atmosphere. I remember one time they messed it up though and it was awkward deciding if we’d just ‘pay what our check said’ or ask the waiter to re-do the checks altogether. Lol.
Now if we share appetizers or like a pitcher of margaritas, then we’d all pay part whether we drank it or not. But I feel that’s different.
Post # 13
We always just ask for separate checks at the beginning of the meal. I don’t think I’d continue dining out with people who insisted I pay for part of their apps and drinks.
Post # 14
We almost always pay for what we eat. If some of us split an appetizer or a bottle of wine, we’ll split it evenly only between those of us who ate/drank the item. Also, one of us (usually me) will specify an amount for everyone to put in that will cover tax and tip.
Post # 15
We ask for separate checks from the beginning and usually if something is shared, it’s only after someone has offered to pay for it. Like I’ve offered to buy a pitcher of a mixed drink to share with my SIL before or my BIL will say he’ll pay for nachos for the whole table. These usually rotate pretty evenly according to who can pay at the time.
Post # 16
Separate checks, that is always the way to go. I know it’s a pain for the server, but in the end I think it saves alot of resentment and hurt feelings. If we announce this up front, most everyone follows suit and there is no issue. When we are in a group, we usually pick up the cost of an appetizer and a bottle of housewine as well.