(Closed) Group/open invite? Ever had/been to?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

From what I’ve seen before, it means you’re invited to the ceremony part, not the reception.  Unless the annoucement says otherwise, all you’re participating in is the mass.  So there’s no need to really organize, because it’s just people sitting in the pews…   No food, no favors, no alcohol, etc.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MissChihuahua:  They could also be having a small reception at the church for anyone who came, and the formal reception for the invited guests later?  If it’s in a church, there may be a gap between the ceremony and reception, and this was how they chose to fill it? 

It’s really sweet of you to go support the couple at their ceremony! 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The reception after is probably just light refreshments. At least in my experience that is what I have seen at this type of wedding.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve only heard of one couple doing that. They literally invited anyone and everyone that wanted to show up. There weren’t even formal paper invites; a lot of emails/texts/evites were going on. From what I’ve been told, it was more of a gift grab (NOT that I’m saying this couple is doing that) because:

1) There wasn’t enough seating.

2) There was definitely not enough food. Just a few party trays of cheese and crackers, a few trays of cookies and coffee/lemonade. A TON of people showed up.

I was told by those that attended that it was an overall uncomfortable affair and many left early out of confusion, discomfort or hunger.

That said, I’ve heard of weddings in cultures where people never RSVP and it’s considered the more the merrier. Then they guesstimate based on other people’s weddings and then do it buffet style with a kitchen that continues to churn out food as long as people are eating.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MissChihuahua:  Yes, I think it can be done well, but it’s all in the planning and getting a general idea of how many will show up or at least being prepared in terms of adequately feeding everyone or at least giving the right idea to people (e.g. cake and coffee to follow type thing). At this affair, some people didn’t even get a cracker or coffee; there were so little refreshments that some just went dry/hungry the whole time. Yikes!

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