Post # 1
Okay, full disclosure- I’m not even engaged. However, I know that many women grow their hair out quickly for their weddings and I need some advice.
I used to dye my hair a lot, which was STUPID. (I’m talking every…3 weeks or so). I haven’t dyed it in a year, aside from one small temporary dye job (no ammonia). My hair looks way healthier and shinier. I also stopped using silicones for a while, although I have started using them again because they prevent my hair from getting so tangled (I just make sure to use a sulfate shampoo now and then to clarify).
I’ve been trying to grow it long for a WHILE, and nothing has really happened. I know new hair is coming in, because my one gray hair keeps popping back up even after I cut it. However, my net length seems to be basically the same. I don’t split ends (at least not a lot), my hair doesn’t feel dry, and I do condition every time I shampoo.
My hair is 25″ from hairline to tip (not that long) and reaches right to the center of my boob/mid-upper back. I would like it to be as long as possible.
Any help? Product rec’s? I currently use Salma Hayek stuff and Aussie sometimes.
Note: I cannot take biotin as it breaks me out. I will not co-wash, every time I do this my hair looks ridiculously greasy as it’s already straight. I don’t heat style (or if I do, it’s like a few times a month). I wonder if I should start sleeping with a ponytail, because a lot of the breakage seems to be from tangles while I sleep. Sometimes I go to bed with silky hair, and I wake up with kinky ends.
Post # 3
@anon00: It could also be your pillow case. The satin or silk pillow cases helps prevent breakage. I would also also wrap your hair in a silk scarf not put it into a pony tail. Putting it in a ponytail seems counterintuitive; you might end up pulling at your hair in your sleep.
Post # 4
@mnp: Thanks, that’s helpful. I already do have a silky pillow case but I think it might not help much if my hair is damp and loose. Maybe spin pins or a silk scarf will work 🙂
Post # 5
@anon00: Ah, ok. Well, don’t stress about your hair. If all else fails, you can always use hair pieces/extensions. No one would know the difference!
Post # 6
Mid back is pretty long. Some people have trouble growing their hair super long and I’m not sure why but yours sounds like its already pretty long. Are you eating enough good fat? Hair, skin, and nails all require essential fatty acids. Otherwise I don’t think there’s any magic out there for you.
Post # 7
@anon00: I have been growing my hair out for 5 YEARS! I became obsessed after my husband proposed and I tried it all. I’m a vitamin freak and I take those daily anyhow, but eveything I tried just made my hair silkier. I have blond, fair hair that is super straight so I never even use a sraightener. I wore a ballgown dress and I had always wanted my hair down but didnt want to deal with extensions on our honeymoon, which we we left for the very next morning.
It was 2 days before my wedding and I was in Sally’s getting a top coat and I saw a “fun bun” type hair peice that was the EXACT color of my hair for $12. So I bought it and decided to wear my hair up and use this weird ponytail holder with hair all over it and it looked awesome!
So I guess my point is don’t worry, and don’t freak out over it! There are a ton of things you cna do to your hair to make it look longer/fuller! Some peoples hair just does not grow very much and it sounds like we are 2 of those people!
Here is a pic of my fake bun. No one could even tell it wasn’t my real hair!
Post # 8
My hair was really damaged from some bad highlighting experiences, and I got it long and healthy by washing/conditioning with Matrix Sleek products. I also use argan oil pretty frequently on my hair, especially the ends.
I would think that sleeping with a ponytail would 1) feel uncomfortable and 2) lead to more breakage.
Post # 9
@JemmyGee: The fake bun looks great! I actually don’t like how updos look on me personally (I think they look great on most people though) so I really just want to have long hair. It’s fine if it takes a while, but I guess I’m wondering if I’m using the wrong products…like if I need some conditioner with protein or something. Thanks for the pic though you look beautiful!
Post # 10
@anon00: A ponytail will break your hair. I don’t know about helping grow, but I found this stuff recently that is amazing!
I have been growing my hair out since we got engaged and it was getting dry. All the stuff at the store has water and alcohol as the first two ingredients which will dry it out. So I searched and found this: Shea Moisture Organic Raw Shea Butter Deep Treatment Hair Masque – it is amazing! So much easier to apply than coconut oil and smells great. It has shea, argon oil, sea kelp, avocado oil, vit B & E… amazing! not a fake thing in there. A girlfriend at work told me that she and her sisters use it all the time (they have black hair and this helps it stay shiny). I just use a dab or do it roots to tips, let it sit for 30 min then wash it out. I would say it’s a lifesaver!
Here’s a link to it on Amazon but honestly, I found it for $9.99 at Target so don’t overpay!!! 🙂 http://www.amazon.com/Shea-Moisture-Organic-Butter-Treatment/dp/B0038U4U3M/
Post # 11
@anon00: Also, don’t sleep with wet hair! That causes problems too.
Honestly, I think people have a length programmed into them. I have never been able to get my hair to grow longer than a few inches below my shoulders. I could not cut it for years and it would be that length. It grows fast when short then stops!
If you notice this point, don’t be sad, that’s just your length. Try to keep it as healthy as possible at that length. Regular trims, non-sulfate shampoo and conditioner, not too much heat, and don’t put it up very often. Ponys break your hair.
Find the beauty at YOUR length! Don’t compare it too much to others. 🙂