(Closed) Growing up too fast

posted 9 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

yeah… i had a moment thought of “can i do this…. for the rest. of. my. life”

and the answer was yes ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Definitely! I don’t doubt that I want to be with Fiance forever, but I do wonder if I am missing out on aspects of single life like traveling all over the world, building my career, and meeting other men, be they romantic flings or longer, more serious relationships. I ultimately decided that I can travel and have a career even when married (I might even travel alone for a few months – Fiance said he is fine with that). The only thing I’m really giving up is other guys, but it’s worth it to be with him

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Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Not at all! We still go do fun things and are “young”. But also, we have a 2 year old in the equation, so that may be why I don’t feel that way!!!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

haha i had this thought tonight actually. went out to dinner with two girlfriends and they’re both talking about their crazy new years eves with random make-outs and the guys they’re crushing on and this weekends’ parties etc etc…. we spent new years on the couch and this weekend i’m going to a bridal show and doing the first walk-through of my new house with my parents. We’re…. on different wavelengths haha. 

The thing is though… I’m happy on the couch with my guy and I’m SO glad that I’m not still out there in the bars looking for someone. So no, I don’t feel that I’m giving anything up by doing this young(ish)… because THIS is what I want my life to be. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Yes, I did think about this…I have a 3 year old so i had to grow up pretty quickly…My Fiance on the other hand has no children but is extremely mature..I have thought about all the partying and care free days I am missing but i would not trade my son or my Fiance for anything….

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It’s crossed my mind many times, but I think ultimately as long as you’re happy together it doesn’t matter how old you are.  Getting married young just means you have more time to enjoy being together ๐Ÿ™‚
My FIwill be 21 and I’ll be 20 when we tie the knot, but I don’t think that we’re giving anything up by doing it now.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Sometimes I think this too.. but a lot of our friends our age are engaged or married so it is fun to be all at the same stage. We don’t have to act old! lol. I think the responsibility is what makes me feel old. We get our house next Friday and I am moving in. That makes me feel old!! setting up the bills and mortgage.

Maturity is a choice ๐Ÿ™‚   or maybe in my case a hat.. i can put it on in situations but take if off in others :p

 

Post # 10
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604 posts
Busy bee

I always ask myself that question. I am nowhere near getting married nor am I engaged, but my bf and I are looking too and have been in a committed relationship for almost two years now. I never dated, but have had my crazy club nights. I have committed myself to my pending career goals and now relationship so I often wonder if I’m missing the random hook-ups etc., but I always come back to the answer of no. I had my hook-ups even if few and I never was that type of girl that just wanted to “have fun.” For me, it was about finding someone to share my life with and after many struggles I have that. So I am content to sit on a couch with him and eat popcorn as long as we go out every once and awhile to do “young” things.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You will if you let yourself! But who says you have to?!

Marriage doesn’t have to mean you being boring and old. I still do all the stuff I did when I wasn’t married–except run around and mack on guys, but I never did that anyways. I still go out with the girls and ditch out on dinner with the husband sometimes and act silly. I’m not really “settling down” yet.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I agree. I love my bf’s parents (hopefully my in-laws lol) they just took an impromptu trip to a casino, walked on the board walk, ate, drank, and had tons of fun. They are in their late 50s-60s I believe.

Post # 13
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5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think it’s normal and has crossed a lot of our minds. It’s a life long commitment so it would be crazy not to think it through completely. I always said that I would fill my passport before I got married, unfortunately that never happened. But, I talked to Fiance about my desire to travel and we have put a trip into our budget every year.

As long as you feel as though you can still be you and don’t have to give up your dreams, then I think you should be al set.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Of course, I think everyone thinks this at some point. But, at the same time, like others, I would SO much rather be doing anything with my Fiance than out trying to find some rando guy or be at a bar (I hate bars). I like nights staying in, I like having someone to come home to, I like having someone to share everything with, to be silly with, to go on a random weekend trip. I think the grass is always greener…

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper

It absolutely crosses my mind, especially when my dad is still talking about how young I am (22…so it’s subjective). It is a little hard, sometimes, to think about moving on to that next (major) stage in life!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s crossed my mind, of course.  Especially when I look at my single best friends!  Honestly though, I’ve done the single thing.  Fiance and I have been together for almost 4 years. I’ll be 25 when we get married in June.  I’m ready ๐Ÿ™‚  I wouldn’t be happy waiting any longer. I don’t think anything is going to change in terms of my friendships… I’m good at balancing my relationships and I don’t see this changing a ton once we get married!

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